ON THIS DAY IN HISTORY

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I’m not a Democrat, however I do wish Bill & Hillary Clinton a happy wedding anniversary!  They have enjoyed wedded bliss for 40 years today!  Bill & Hill tied the knot in Fayetteville, Arkansas on October 11, 1975.  This blogger was 14 years old and in Jr. High School back then.

Let’s have a little good-natured fun, shall we???  Bwahahaha…

Since they are so poor now (not only broke, but in debt since they left the White House), I’m not sure how they will celebrate…  but I have an old Coleman pup tent they are welcome to borrow.  They have to bring their own sleeping bags, blankets and lanterns A campout would be fun – but I do recommend taking a few blankets because it’s a little nippy at night.

I feel sorry for folks who graduate from Yale and become successful lawyers – then become career politicians…  don’t you?  It takes a special breed to stay in politics as long as these two have.  I can’t imagine having every little thing in my life and especially my marriage put under a giant microscope for God and everyone to see.  I hope it’s been worth it for them.  That sure is not the life I would wish for myself – not for any amount of money.  It’s amazing that they have stayed married – jus’ sayin’…  so many lies and so much deceit.  Do they know truth if it bites them?

Here’s a link of traditional and modern wedding gifts through the years:

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None of these things seem quite right for this special couple.  What is the right gift for Bill & Hill…  for their 40th wedding anniversary???  Wow – what should we get them?  Let’s see…  well – there are a few things on Amazon that look like good choices.  How about pillow cases – one says Mr. Always Right and the other one says Mrs. Always Right – ???

There’s a T-shirt for Bill that says, “I don’t need GOOGLE my wife knows everything.”

Or this T-shirt:

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Oh wait…  that’s the T-shirt I’m giving my husband next year.  LOL!  I’m kidding – I’m kidding.

Ah – I see a ball cap that says, “After 50 years she still puts up with me.”

Yes, this is their 40th wedding anniversary…  but I’m pretty sure it feels like 50.  :-/  I’m kidding…

I do wish Bill & Hillary a lovely 40th wedding anniversary.  I hope they get to spend it with friends and family.

I do very seriously pray for this country and for future leadership.  I pray everyone wakes up to the truth – God’s truth – very soon.  I hope one way or the other, they learn that what they do matters and they are not above the law.  🙂

 

 

 

A COMMENTARY FROM THE HEART

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My husband and I are celebrating 29 years of marriage today!

You would think that I’d be a wellspring of wisdom and filled with great advice for those younger than me.  The fact is, we are still learning as we go along.  There are a few things I have learned through the years.  I can say without hesitation:

  1. Listen more than you speak because that’s how you learn.
  2. Adopt an attitude of serendipity every day.  Every day will not be filled with excitement and fireworks!  Embrace the quiet, boring moments and appreciate what you have – on purpose.
  3. Don’t let the enemy talk you into the notion that living your life with someone else would have been better.  It probably would not.
  4. There’s not a problem in marriage that cannot be fixed.  Pray separately and together for solutions.  God wants to help.
  5. Don’t even say the word divorce.  We decided from the get-go that we would not say the “D” word to each other.
  6. Perfection is a myth in marriage.  He’s a human being and so am I.  Imperfection is our specialty and forgiveness is the key to dealing with it.
  7. You won’t change him.  Stop thinking you can change him.  Accept whatever it is that you think you can change, because it’s not going to change.
  8. We get older.  We gain new interests and grow intellectually.  We have each other for moral support through all the changes that inevitably happen in life.
  9. No matter how difficult or time-consuming your occupation is, I guarantee that the time you need to dedicate to keeping your marriage great will take much more effort and take even more time.
  10. I don’t have to be right all the time.  I’m not always wrong either.  I admit it when I’m wrong and don’t rub it in when I’m right.
  11. There are quirky behaviors that will make your mate crazy.  If it’s your goal to make him / her crazy, keep it up.  If it’s not your goal to make your significant other crazy, work on your quirky self.
  12. If you find that you are unhappy in your marriage, don’t automatically blame the marriage.  Maybe you don’t feel fulfilled within.  Take a class or join a book club.  Expand your own horizons and find your inner shine.
  13. Marriage does not come with instructions.  It is on the job training, so cut your spouse some slack and allow for learning curves.
  14. My husband and I survived having a house built.  It’s my opinion that if a couple can come through that, they can come through just about anything.
  15. Be willing to open and sort through each other’s baggage from time to time.  We all have baggage, and when you find a person who is willing to help you work on the stuff in your bag, you have really found a great treasure in that person.
  16. Take care of yourself for your spouse.  The greatest anniversary gift you can give him / her is the gift of your good health.
  17. When you are facing challenges, try to remember some happier memories.  I grab a scrapbook at times like that to jog my memory.  The photos make me smile.
  18. Infidelity is the only deal breaker!  Nobody deserves to be cheated on.  If you want out, walk out.  Everything else is negotiable and there are always concessions being made to make the other happy.  It’s not always about me.
  19. Frustration happens.  Don’t shut each other out when it does.  Talk it out.  Hug it out.
  20. Remember the vows you took.  Make them matter, no matter what.  You will work on the things that matter most.  How much does your marriage mean to you?
  21. I learned a long time ago that we have a choice to be bitter or better.  I find that better makes me and my spouse better.  Bitterness just puts a frown on my face and creates wrinkles.  Who needs that?
  22. Please and thank you are magic words and should be used liberally in a marriage and in a family.  If you request change instead of criticize or complain you will get more promising results.
  23. Silence in a marriage is not always a bad thing.  When a couple falls silent for a few miles along the way, that’s not a sign that the marriage is not good.  There are times when my husband and I will be thinking the same thing and one of us will speak – and the other will say, “How did you know what I was just thinking about?”  I love it when that happens!
  24. Find constructive ways to fight.  Bad language and yelling accomplish nothing.  Resolve conflict with logic and wisdom.  Being childish does not earn points from your spouse.
  25. Forgive…  forgive…  and keep forgiving.  Your marriage is worth it.
  26. Apply Christian love like a Band-Aid bandage!  See your spouse as Christ sees him / her.  He / she is a soul in need of a Savior.  Instead of expecting so much, give the gift of prayer.  God is in the business of healing marriages.
  27. Be comfortable with your own company.  There are times when you will be left alone.  If you are the type of person who is not comfortable being alone, work on that.  Marriage provides companionship, but it’s important to know how to be left alone as well.
  28. Routine can become a rut.  Change it up because you do not have to fix a roast every single Sunday of the year.
  29. Money matters can tear a marriage to pieces.  Keep it fair by putting both your names on everything.  Share the checkbook and limit the number of credit cards you use.  Make sure you discuss major purchases before buying.
  30. Don’t let the sun set on your anger.  That’s the best biblical advice ever!  Talk it out and stay up all night if you have to.  No slamming doors and no yelling.  Sit down and respectfully discuss it like adults.
  31. When your spouse begins to be critical, it’s never about that.  There’s usually something deeper causing the criticism.  Don’t take it personally because eventually the real issue will probably come to the surface.
  32. This house is just a house.  It’s up to the two of us to make it into a home.  The goal is not to be happily married, but to live happily ever after.  We’re not happy every single moment of every single day.  After all, this isn’t a fairytale!
  33. Sometimes there’s a split second during a disagreement when that little voice inside says, “I probably should not say that”, please, for Pete’s sake, listen to that little voice!  You can never take it back…  never.
  34. Anticipate screw ups!  It’s called life – and it happens!
  35. Keep God in the middle of your marriage.  GOD IS LOVE…  and what does any marriage need more than LOVE???
  36. Sickness, health, rich, poor…  are you in it for the long haul, no matter what?  It’s as simple as being determined to hold on and ride it out.
  37. Don’t expect your spouse to make you happy.  That’s not his / her job.
  38. Do something new.  We took some cooking classes together and it was so much fun.
  39. Share a joke with your spouse.  You may get a laugh or an eye roll – but you’ll probably get some response.
  40. Pray God’s blessings over your union.  Remember that He’s the One who brought you together.

Marriage is not easy, and it’s not for wimps or those who are squeamish.  It takes two people who are willing to hang in there and work at it, keeping God in the center.  ❤

 

 

 

 

 

I STILL BELIEVE AS I GRIEVE

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Today I wish my parents a happy wedding anniversary in heaven.  My folks were married at a judge’s office here in Kansas.  My mom’s brother and sister-in-law stood up with them.  It goes to show that the expense and fanfare of a big wedding is not necessary to ensure the marriage is a success.

The things we do outlast our mortality…  They’re like the pyramids that the Egyptians built to honor the pharaohs.  Only instead of being made of stone, they’re made out of the memories people have of you.  – R.J. Palacio

We used to celebrate together.  I used to take them to dinner or take a cake to the house.  In 1976 I bought them an anniversary clock – for their 30th anniversary.  We made some precious memories and they are more precious now.

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Mom & Dad’s 27th Wedding Anniversary

When their anniversary fell on a Sunday, we went to church and then to the Bonanza restaurant for lunch.  Truth be told, most Sundays we headed for the Bonanza for lunch after morning worship service.

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Mom & Dad’s 33rd Wedding Anniversary

 

I hope they would be pleased with me today.  They taught me so much about living and loving.

Thank you mom and dad for all the lessons you taught me.  Thank you for giving me a model for marriage and showing me how it should work.  In a time when people choose to walk away instead of work on relationships, thank you for teaching me how to compromise and love another person more than I love myself.

Thank you for showing me every day that having purpose and meaning in life increases well-being and satisfaction.  To love another person completely will ultimately make me more happy than expecting love from him.

Thank you for instilling Christian values in me because God is the source of love.  I know if God is in the midst of marriage, it will be successful.  🙂

 

WEDDING ANNIVERSARY #28

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THE 3-LEGGED RACE

Imagine you are out on a grassy hillside, gathered with family and friends. You hear laughing and see the children out playing beside a crystal clear stream that runs alongside. You’re enjoying the picnic lunch you packed. The fried chicken, coleslaw, potato salad and baked beans are so good – and taste better still since you are in such a relaxing atmosphere. Everyone is having a great time at this group outing. Then you hear a voice calling out, “It’s time for the 3-legged race! Everyone interested in participating come to the starting line!”

You look around. Obviously you cannot walk to the starting line without a partner! You need someone you can trust to walk at the same pace you do – one who will not want to set their own pace and walk faster than you, or who will not be able to keep up and cause you both to fall! You need just the right person for this race. Who will you choose?

Have you ever thought of marriage as a 3-legged race? Well, I have – several times during my over quarter of a century marriage! Our marriage is not perfect – no marriage is perfect. Sometimes though, when we walk together I imagine my right leg and his left leg in a burlap sack. I imagine that we would win that 3-legged race because you see, we have played some beautiful music together down through the years. We understand rhythm, timing and syncopation as well as rest, sharp, flat and natural signs. We read each other like a music book.

I have depended on that man’s lead for a long time. He sets the tone in our home, and I like it that way. It’s my job to be a helpmate to him. God ordained the man to be head of the household and that’s fine with me. But when I race with him, one leg is tied to his. We have to walk quickly, but with a sense of rhythm, or we will both fall. If you fall too many times, you lose the race. It’s a delicate ability to run this race and it takes years of practice.

I’m here to tell you, young people just starting out: Hang in there – it’s worth it! Longevity doesn’t happen because two people are perfect for each other. Sometimes it happens in spite of the fact that two people are not perfect for each other! You will have rough patches, but if you have a high-quality rope and you have set the pace at which you will run, you will win the race.

Where can you find a high-quality rope? I’m so glad you asked!

Make GOD the center your marriage. Enjoy family devotions together. Pray together. Have the same goals for your future. Set your sights on what God sees as good. If you don’t know what God wants you to do next, ask Him. If God is in the center of your relationship with your spouse, your rope will be strong and you will not fray it as you run the race. Once in a while you may begin running out of sync and stumble, but God is there, the rope is heavy and strong. Get back up and keep racing together.

Then some days you crawl to the finish line like the mattress mascot! LOL!!!

I met one woman in Georgia who has been married to her husband for over 60 years.  After being asked for her best relationship advice, she paused and then said, “Don’t be afraid to be the one who loves the most.”  – Nate Bagley

Today is our 28th wedding anniversary. With God’s help, our rope will stay strong and we will make it to the finish line. ❤

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WEDDING ANNIVERSARY #27

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To keep your marriage brimming

With love in the wedding cup,

Whenever you’re wrong, admit it,

Whenever you’re right, shut up!

– Ogden Nash

What is the purpose behind celebrating a wedding anniversary? For some it means a trip around the world or some other fancy excursion to be enjoyed together. For others it may be an adventure of some other sort, like mountain climbing or white water rafting or something. No matter what you do with your spouse to mark your wedding anniversary – there is one thing to remember. It’s not what you do, but who you do it with that matters!

It’s a day made for two and should be a private time.

While I was still sleeping, he went out and got a beautiful card and Starbuck’s white mocha with a slice of their heavenly chocolate cinnamon bread! What an awesome treat to wake up to! I have always made his card by hand – and this year I ran out of templates so I started over! This year’s card looks like the one I made him for our first wedding anniversary! I don’t think he will mind at all.

Look closely, there’s a Starbuck’s on the second floor!

No, this is not a Starbuck’s in the states – it’s in Japan, I think – or maybe China.  Anyway, it’s the only public domain photo of Starbuck’s that was not crazy hung up on the copyright thing.  LOL!!!  And no, my husband did not travel to the Orient to get Starbuck’s – wink!  😉

I know that young people have the idea that once the fireworks die down you are not left with much – but that’s not true. Long term love offers a deeper and richer respect that is so much better than the fireworks of short-term love. There is a certain dependability that offers security and comfort in a relationship – and it only comes with longevity. It’s not boring – it’s reassuring. It’s like that blanket (binkie) you had when you were little – the one you don’t want to give up! It’s got a few more wrinkles now, but it is still warm and feels so good to snuggle up in.

Happy anniversary, LLP – from Mrs. LLP.

Oh… one more thing. Today is KISS AND MAKE UP DAY!!! No, I’m not making it up! I think it is so cool that this wacky holiday falls on my wedding anniversary!!! Coincidence??? I think not! Take a look at this great poem my friend Lucinda wrote for this special day!  Even if you don’t need to kiss and make up – do it anyhow!