“You don’t want to win the argument, you want to get your way.” It was from the late Rae Wolf McKenna, my first mother-in-law. I have found it popping into my head in many tense situations over the years, to great effect. – Paul Steiger
In my 28 years of marriage (well, as of August 25th), my husband and I have had very few arguments. Is that a good thing? Well, every marriage needs a little spice, but it’s best to spice it up in a positive way, I believe.
The most miserable feeling in the world is to let an argument remain unresolved overnight. I’m not into crying on my pillow. Anger that lasts overnight just leaves me with a stopped up red nose and a huge headache the next morning. If the issue remains unresolved, in the morning my anger gets rekindled and I’m ready to begin the battle once again.
Instead of dragging the battle into the next morning, do your best to resolve it before your head hits the pillow. Your eyes will not be as puffy, your pillow will not get soaked and you won’t have that hung over feeling the next morning! Not that I know what that feels like… please don’t give me grief about that comparison!
Be ye angry, and sin not: let not the sun go down upon your wrath. – Ephesians 4:26
Such sage advice, yet at times I know it is so difficult to follow. If I feel passionately about something and my husband is stubborn, it could be a very long night – but we try to resolve things before we sleep. It may be 3am before we get it resolved, but we hash away at it until it’s resolved. Of course, if he were the one telling it – I’d be the stubborn one, right? Uh-huh.
The point is, life is too short and God is too good for us to be doing very much arguing to begin with. If you have someone who loves you and you are happy with your life – then what else matters?
LIVE LONG AND PROSPER. – Dr. Spock (Star Trek)
You’re totally trying to do the Vulcan salute now, aren’t you? Yeah, me too… I still can’t do it.