Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you. – Ephesians 4:32
It’s a calling from our LORD… be light, salt, kind, loving, forgiving and tenderhearted. Nobody wants to be tenderhearted because that means you are also vulnerable. It hurts to make yourself vulnerable because to open yourself up to others has no guarantee of success associated with it. God never said that being obedient to Him would result in automatic joy or happiness. Does that mean it’s not worth doing? No. Does it mean that we won’t need to walk away from the ones who hurt and disappoint us sometimes? No. Is it a sin to walk away? No. It’s probably a sin to give up and not try again. The sin is to quit trying.
We have to rely on God to help us forgive – and forgive as quickly as possible. Forget? Well… not really. It’s like you sort of tuck it in the back of your mind. You don’t want to dwell on it, but you don’t want to forget completely so you aren’t that stupid again. I don’t need to keep hitting my head against the same post over and over. That’s just an insane thing to do! The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over, expecting a different result. I refuse to do anything remotely insane ever again.
Does that mean I don’t forgive past wrongs? No. I need for others to forgive me – and frankly, I need God to forgive me – so I will absolutely forgive others when I feel I’ve been wronged. This ol’ world needs more kindness and less anger-driven violence, to be sure. If you allow hurt feelings to fester and get infected, it affects all aspects of your life.
How can we shine for God and serve Him if there’s a cloud of hurt hanging over our heads? We just have to ask God to help us through those hurtful times and be what He wants us to be! I want to be light, salt, kind, loving, and yes… even tenderhearted. It doesn’t mean we are door mats. It doesn’t mean we are stupid enough to walk back and take more. We’re not.
We can conquer the hurt we encounter in this life with help from God. We can conquer the hate we encounter in this life with help from God!
Are you ready to spring into action – and throw kindness into this wicked world like it’s confetti??? Instead of deciding to merely DEAL with the hurt in our lives, let’s trust God to help us HEAL from church hurt and other disappointments along life’s way so we can effectively SHINE for Him! When we live in the complete freedom that Christ bought for us, it makes Him smile and it makes us whole! 🙂