A COMMENTARY FROM THE HEART

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A DIFFICULT PRAYER
Some prayers come so easily. The prayers of thanksgiving just sort of flow in an effortless fashion. Thanking God for the bounty He provides is so easy! Praying on the behalf of those who are ill is not even that hard. The prayer of repentance is a bit more difficult because that is hitting mighty close to home. There’s one even more difficult prayer to pray and that is the one that says, “Lord, change ME.”

Everyone has an ego. I don’t care who you are, there is some degree of ego. We don’t like to think that we are the problem. We like to think that we live our lives in such a way that we are the contributors, the do-gooders and the peacemakers. The fact is, sometimes it is not the other person who needs the adjustment, but sometimes… it’s me. I need to change an attitude or a behavior or something.

It’s true, and it’s painful. No matter what relationship it is, work, church, school, even more personal relationships like marriage or a sibling or a parent – sometimes we need to pray “Lord, change ME.”

Without going into detail, I know for a fact that little three-word prayer works. God takes that heart-felt prayer and performs what I consider to be a real miracle with it! And, the funny thing is, the more often you pray it, the easier it gets to pray it! That ego just begins to shrink and there’s a sort of attitude “shift” that takes place. The other person gets viewed not as a problem, but as someone who you need to understand better. In order to understand where they are coming from, you need God to tweak your sense of understanding toward them. LORD, CHANGE ME.

I love how God works and the prayers He uses. It’s our willingness to let our ego shrink and accept the fact that we need an attitude adjustment from God that allows God to do the work. Once that concept becomes clear, it’s not a difficult prayer to pray. At first, it’s probably the most difficult prayer you’ll ever pray. Don’t give up, just try it and see if God doesn’t perform a real miracle for you too. ❤

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IRON SHARPENS IRON… FRIENDSHIP

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FOR ALL YOU'VE DONE
When you were a child did you play on the teeter totter??? My friends and I spent hours on it – going up and down while we said little rhymes, like:

Teeter totter,
Bread and water,
Wash a fish with dirty water.

We also had fun with this classic as we went up and down:

Teeter totter up and down,
This is the way to London town,
One foot up, one foot down,
This is the way to London town.

If you were to try to play on a teeter totter alone, you’d find it quite difficult if not impossible. It takes two people to make a teeter totter work correctly. As children we learn how to play together and get along so that when we grow up we will know how to socialize, interact and work together. There are not many things you can do alone – or should have to do alone. A marriage is a great example of teamwork in action. If both people are not completely committed to it, the chances of success are slim at best.

Friendship is another good example of teamwork. Many times in life I have been on a teeter totter with a friend for a time, just to realize that while I’m up in the air, they decide to get off – then I go crashing to the ground! I think that has happened to most of us – but as we get older we just see it as a part of life. Every friend crosses our path for a certain purpose and for a given amount of time. It’s rare that a friendship is really forever. If you have one forever friend, you have a rare gift.

We should ask ourselves three questions before we speak: Is it true? Is it kind? Does it glorify Christ?  – Billy Graham

The ups and downs of any relationship are inevitable, whether it’s a marriage or a friendship. God did not make robots – He made human beings. We are moody and have a vast range of emotions and desires. What works for us one day may not work for us the next. It’s sad when one wants to grow and move beyond the status quo while the other wants to stay stuck in a rut. To say this is unhealthy is a dramatic understatement. Not only is one person unhappy and dissatisfied, but it does not please God either. He wants His children to grow in grace.

Choose the one you play on the teeter totter with very carefully. Make sure you choose someone who plays fair and won’t suddenly get off the teeter totter when they reach the ground, sending you straight down for a crash landing!

If you have the courage to walk away from toxicity in relationships, your life will improve. Once you know people who truly love and care for you, you will wonder why you did not move on sooner. Even if you are alone with no relationship or no friends, you are still better off than you were with the toxic people. Eventually you will find good people to surround yourself with – and life will be better and you will be much happier.

I’ll play on the teeter totter with you – but you have to play nice!

I know a Man who will never let you down!!! His name is Jesus.

WATER A FLOWER DAY

TL 5-30 WATER A FLOWER DAY

Today is WATER A FLOWER DAY!!! I humbly give you a thought to ponder. A strong relationship is like a soft, fragile flower. Without water and care, it withers and ultimately dies. Even a cactus needs a little water once in a while.

In our world, the media would have you believe that everything is all about sex. From shampoo to chewing gum, sex sells, and always has ! The superficial coating that people want to pass off for love leaves me shaking my head and screaming at the top of my lungs… THERE MUST BE MORE TO IT THAN THIS!!!

Let me begin by saying I am not an expert or a therapist or anyone who has the perfect formula for a relationship. I’m just a person who finds human behavior fascinating and I wonder why some relationships seem to flourish while others seem to fade.

I believe that relationships should be rooted in the soil of trust. Whether you are in the flourishing class or the fading group, one of the most important ingredients for success is trust. Once it is plain that the one you have entrusted with your love and your very life cannot be trusted, there is little hope for love to grow. At that point a relationship cannot thrive and will die rather quickly.

But trust extends beyond just knowing that your significant other is not stepping out on you. Trust also includes a degree of respect for what the other person wants and needs along the way. Seeing to it that they have what they need is good, but when what they want is also deemed as important, that is when love can be seen and trust can be built. If that is lacking, then trust can be easily lost.

Just as the best soil for flowers is beneficial, there is real delight when you know your partner in life can be trusted. Trusted to care for you – see that you get not only what you need (food, clothing, shelter), but what you may want once in a while. I’m not suggesting that anyone take advantage or be taken advantage of. I am, however, suggesting that trust is reinforced when both parties play fair in the relationship.

This post may fall on deaf ears, but I’m writing it anyway. I submit that good healthy relationships, like flowers, are all about using good quality soil (trust) and proper watering (care). If you want to keep your partner happy and healthy and feeling delightful, be trustworthy and caring! Doesn’t everyone deserve to feel delight in a relationship?

Remember the Golden Rule

Do unto others as you would have them do unto you

Well, the rule is still golden and the principle still applies. Nobody likes to feel slighted, cheated – or like a second-class citizen!

It’s a delight to trust somebody so completely. – Jeff Goldblum

Do more than is necessary to make your partner happy. Don’t just do the least required. How much does that person mean to you? Think about it. ❤