Just as the Bible instructs children to honor their parents and be obedient, it also has an outline for parents – particularly fathers in this case.  Think of the attributes of our Heavenly Father…  He is slow to anger, as earthly fathers should be.  He does not use severities in dealing with us – again, earthly fathers would be wise to take note of that.

Earthly fathers should do their best to work upon their child’s reason.  The old adage “because I said so” is an example of what not to say.  Children need answers to the fundamental question – why?   It’s always best to use reason so they understand where you’re coming from.

While there’s nothing wrong with setting limits and making it clear where the line is, anything less that proper and compassionate correction is wrong.  Make sure they learn about God and His love as well as His ways.  Pray for your children – and pray with them.  Show them that you practice what you preach.  Prayer in the household should be as natural as breathing.  God can change the heart, yet He gives His blessing to the good lessons and examples of parents, and answers their prayers.

Fathers who want their children to be rich and accomplished, whatever becomes of their souls, must not look for the blessing of God.  That’s not to say a child can not be successful in life – but it is to say the main interest in training up a child should be their spiritual condition.  God will lead for all those other things.  Seek Him first…  then all other things will be added.

God entrusts fathers with precious little ones.  When dads introduce their kids to the Heavenly Father, it makes God smile!  Remember – when we get to Heaven, God’s not going to ask you about how much money you made or how much cool stuff you had while on earth.  He does care about how you raise your children.  It’s important to show them Jesus.  🙂


I think we all agree that God gave us a brain to think for ourselves, right?  There are so many denominations and we need to look at the core values of the church and compare them with God’s Word.  There’s never going to be a perfect church – the church is people, and people are imperfect.  God is perfect – He is the standard by which we measure the place we go to worship Him.I’ve been in congregations that don’t believe exactly as I do – but there are times when a person has to make allowances and, while not adopting the parts that I disagree with, show respect for others because as long as the whole Bible is preached, I can be a part.

Not every minister preaches the whole Bible – they are known as false prophets and ear ticklers.  If every sermon you hear makes you smile and giggle, chances are you are listening to an ear tickler – which is not helping you grow in your faith.  Unless you are challenged a little along the way, you will stagnate and stay immature.  Some churches just want money, which is sad because the goal of those in God’s house should be to help one another spiritually, not bilk them of their finances.

It’s okay to tithe to your local church – but if you feel pressured to give until it hurts, you may want to rethink that.  Finances are such a personal thing, but we do know that all we have comes from God’s hand.  If the Lord had not given you the ability to work for what money you get, you wouldn’t be able to work and that would be bad.  We give our first fruits to God because we’re so thankful to Him for His provision.

We can’t expect to find a perfect church, but we need to hold the beliefs of the church up next to God’s Word and make sure it’s a Bible-believing congregation that has godly priorities and is focused on outreach in the community.  🙂





On October 6, 1961, President John F. Kennedy advised Americans to build fallout shelters. I was only 6 months old, but my daddy made sure our house had a fallout shelter. Bomb shelters had to be built a certain way with specific features. It was more involved than building a tornado shelter and they were not inexpensive to build. When others in the neighborhood were buying fancy new cars and putting nice new furniture in their homes, my dad was building a bomb shelter to keep his family safe. It was not large or fancy, but cold and damp with a distinct sort of musty odor. If the civil defense sirens had sounded, the entire neighborhood would have clamored to get in to our dank little shelter.

Thank God the bomb shelter was only used to hide from Mother Nature’s tornadoes and not from the big bomb everyone was dreading. Was it worth it to be prepared? Of course. In my dad’s mind, it was more important to protect his family than to parade around the neighborhood in a brand new Cadillac or have a new color television set.

We welcomed the neighborhood in to our shelter when the tornado sirens sounded, but it was quite cramped when everyone was there. We sat there shivering, shoulder to shoulder, quietly listening to the transistor radio for the latest weather report. Even as a small child I remember thinking,

We could be here as long as it takes a tornado to come and go, but what if this was a bomb threat? There’s no way we could be stuck here like this for any length of time!

The neighbors got the same advice from President Kennedy that we got. Their priorities were mislaid or they just assumed they could come “live” in our shelter. While they were buying all those nice new things that, hello – if a bomb had been dropped – would surely be destroyed… my family drove an old car and we had an old black and white television. Daddy made much of our furniture, but I remember spending Saturday nights at the Bud Palmer auction, bidding on used furniture. We loaded it up and took it home in our pickup truck. No furniture trucks ever came to our house.

I’m proud of my parents! I’m also very VERY thankful we were not faced with a life or death situation in which we would have most certainly had to turn our friends and neighbors away from our shelter. Thank You, God! ❤






It’s better to have peace in your home and eat hot dogs than to live with strife while dining on the finest swordfish? You bet!
Above all else we should pray for peace in our homes:

Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God; and the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus. – Ephesians 4:6-7

There is no room for any anger in a peaceful home:

Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry. – Ephesians 4:26-27

The mood or tone you set in your home will determine a level of stress or a level of peace and harmony. It’s a matter of setting priorities. Simply put, if peace is what you want in your home first and foremost, then it will happen. You have to be mindful that every word you say begins as a thought, good or bad. If the thought is not a good one to express, ask the Holy Spirit to “check” you on it before it comes out of your mouth. I admit that is still something God is helping me with.

How many times have you agreed to do something with the best of intentions, but it ended up robbing you of times of joy and peace with your own family? I see heads nodding. I’ve done it too. We must make our homes a top priority. If we don’t, we run the risk of losing the close bond we have with our own family. The enemy of your soul would like nothing better than to see your family unit crumble to the ground. Even overloading yourself with church work can be an opportunity for the devil to work.

Be aware that when you’re doing good deeds for others it is taking time from your family:

Lay not wait, O wicked man, against the dwelling of the righteous, spoil not his resting place. – Proverbs 24:15

I’m not suggesting that ministry is a bad thing, but make sure you pay attention to your family too. After all, God gave you those precious people for a reason. Don’t ignore them.

Eat your hot dogs and enjoy your time together!



The stronger the participation of the female characters, the better the movie.  They knew that in the old days, when women stars were equally as important as men.  Hepburn, Davis, Colbert:  They had great faces and great voices.  – Clint Eastwood

Today is WOMEN’S DAY! I’ve always celebrated womanhood, but there is one distinctive characteristic about some of us. Some of us are women of God. A woman who loves God is to be treasured, for she knows where her loyalty lies and she knows from where all blessings flow. It takes the pressure off a man to know that his woman does not depend on him for her contentment. She is fully and completely dependent on her wonderful, loving, gracious heavenly Father to supply every need – for her and her family.


Women of God do not entertain petty thoughts. We do not do anything without a great deal of prayer. We lay up treasures in heaven because we know that the things of this earth are insignificant. At the same time, we know that money is necessary to survive, so we try to find creative ways of saving and we are smart about our spending. Some of us are coupon queens. I’m neither admitting nor denying that title. 😉

Our priorities do not include the latest flash-in-the-pan fashion or what color is hot for the season. We have bigger fish to fry that have eternal ramifications. We are not short-sighted, but we see the big picture – the really big picture.

If you have not been to a Women of Faith conference, I strongly encourage you to grab a girlfriend and GO! You will walk out a revived and refreshed servant of God.

An attitude of gratitude is more important than anything tangible. It’s important to eat food, but it will not bring us one inch closer to God. Only through Bible study and prayer can we establish a relationship with the Almighty. God does not honor a selfish perspective from us. He would rather we worship Him than spend the day out shopping at the local mall. Activities that take time away from my Father are considered vain. Vanity will disappear one day when this life is over. As the old song says, “Only what’s done for Christ will last.”

A woman of God understands all of this. ❤




Well, it’s that wonderful time of year again.  Oh, I don’t mean Thanksgiving (or as I like to call it, Thanksliving), but the day after…  the one day of the year when all the crazy people gather in malls and shopping outlets across the country for one express purpose… to get the bargain!  Black Friday has arrived!!!  Woot!!!

It just seems strange to me that we take a day to be thankful for all of our many blessings – then the next day (for some people, that very evening), the thankfulness gets replaced with a feeling of discontentment again.  I’m so confused!  If we’re so thankful, then why do we think we have to jump into that madness?  Ah… to get the perfect Christmas gift, right?  Well, give it up – there is no such thing as the perfect Christmas gift!  Perfection is highly over-rated, and quite frankly, a tad boring!

Some people will burn calories working out at the mall. They reason that surely the pounds will melt away as they scurry around frantically, raising their blood pressure and stressing themselves out in the process. It also gives the budget a workout. I know there are sales, but you’ll still spend money.

So, kudos to all the shoppers out there…  may the bargain fairy be with you!  But I think I’ll just keep my body busy a different way today – and maybe I’ll burn just as many calories and still have some money left over! Yay!

It takes a special brand of stupid. And I think if I hear one more OMG I will scream. Really not diggin’ on that phrase and it is everywhere. Please expand your vocabulary horizon beyond the OMG’s, people. I think this is what they call mob mentality. It’s a bit disturbing to say the least. Where are people’s priorities? We act like this with each other just to get the perfect Christmas gift for someone at a bargain price? Okay – let’s think about that thing. First of all, I don’t think the prices are all that great. Secondly, you push and shove and yell and curse at your brother in the name of Christmas (using Christ’s name in vain) and then at Christmas we speak peace to one another? Yeah, right – I got that. 😦

Before you walk out the door, make sure to do a few warm up stretches. Practice smiling and saying, “Excuse me, pardon me, oh, I’m so sorry, was that your shopping cart?”

Please shop friendly!  🙂