I STILL BELIEVE AS I GRIEVE

TL I STILL BELIEVE AS I GRIEVE (2)

What was happening in America on Saturday, September 18, 1909???

The largest crowd to ever watch a baseball game, up to that time, turned out in Shibe Park as 35,409 spectators watched the Philadelphia Athletics beat the visiting Detroit Tigers, 2–0, on the pitching of future Hall of Famer Charles “Chief” Bender. The A’s were second to the Tigers in the American League pennant race.

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SEPTEMBER 18, 1909

Guess what else happened???  My Grandpa married my Granny!  I don’t have wedding photos – I’m not even sure there are any – this plate is my precious possession to remind me of my Grandpa Frank & Granny LaVella’s wedding day.  Mama told me that it was hand painted by a family friend and neighbor.  It’s not valuable – but it sure means a lot to me.  Granny kept this plate hanging in their bedroom on the farm.

People really do get married at an older age these days.  These two crazy kids were married at 16 years of age!  I think they were married at a judge’s house, if I remember the story correctly.

They had a piece of farmland willed to them, built a little house on it and started growing wheat, horses, cattle and children – by the time it was said and done – EIGHT kids!

Grandpa Frank also drove a truck to supplement their income.  Granny did some sewing and took in washing to help out.  They didn’t have to buy stainless for the kitchen or even entertain the notion of indoor plumbing…  but they were two of the happiest people ever!  They had the same beliefs and the same dreams for their family.  They embraced faith in God above all and were faithful to each other until the end.

I get to thinking about that sometimes.  In their life, they were so firmly rooted in family and values, the fancy stuff wasn’t important.  I loved everything about staying at the farmhouse when I was little because something as simple as snuggling down in one of Granny’s quilts meant more to me than anything fancy and showy.  That squeaky bed was the best, and using homemade soap every morning and eating farm fresh eggs…  well those are memories that will never fade from my memory!

You have to have a dream so you can get up in the morning.  – Billy Wilder

In our day, it seems like we place so much importance on possessing the best of things and less emphasis on growing a strong family.  In the end, what difference does it make if we have a hardwood floor or linoleum?  I wouldn’t want to have an outhouse…  let’s not get nuts!

I miss that farm in Oklahoma…  I felt so safe and secure there in that squeaky bed with Granny’s quilt tucked around me.  It gives me such comfort to know that Grandpa, Granny, mom and dad are in heaven waiting for me.

Happy Anniversary in heaven, Grandpa & Granny!!!

They are with Jesus, and one day I’ll join them.  Maybe I could have that squeaky bed and one of Granny’s quilts in my mansion.  I may not need it since there is no night there and I won’t get tired.  Hmm…  I have to re-think that, don’t I?  Wink!  😉

 

 

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ANOTHER LOOK UNLIMITED DAY

TL 9-2 ANOTHER LOOK UNLIMITED DAY

9-2 WHEN YOUR MAMA COMES TO CALL

Today is ANOTHER LOOK UNLIMITED DAY!!!  We are encouraged to rummage through our possessions and either give surplus items to charity or repurpose them in other projects in order to lessen the amount of garbage in landfills.  We can definitely do that with stuff – but not with the people in our lives.

Dealing with family is not so easy.

“My mom drives me crazy”, my friend vented to me one sunny summer day. As I held the phone and listened I watched the neighbors in their front yard playing with their grandchildren. Tears welled but I was holding it together.

I want her to talk with me about anything and welcome her without restriction of any kind. We talk about absolutely anything and that’s the way friendship should be. My Lord is also her Lord and our values are similar.

Have you ever prayed one of those really fast prayers before you speak – like LORD, PLEASE GIVE ME WISDOM, QUICK – ??? Well, I prayed and then I spoke:

I think your mom realizes that times have changed and that she doesn’t need to be so controlling, but it may be a struggle for her to feel as important to you as her mom was to her at your age. She may feel like you are slipping through her fingers and might be mindlessly putting you in a choke hold because she misses her little girl. When daughters grow up, mothers feel a real sense of loss and that sometimes manifests itself in some ugly ways. I don’t believe any mother deliberately pushes her daughter away. Sometimes a daughter needs to show some compassion instead of anger.

Promising to pray for both mother and daughter, I ended my little mini-lecture:

Make an attempt to put yourself in your mom’s shoes. Instead of meeting her anger with your own anger, try approaching her with a calm resolve and rise above the temptation to stoop to her level emotionally. Don’t try to talk her out of her feelings because she thinks they are justified. Just be calm and respectful toward her. Listen and sympathize whether you agree or not. It’s not about agreement, it’s about understanding. Even if the subject is YOU – she still needs to know that you will respectfully listen and honestly empathize with her. Don’t be condescending – but truly sympathize or empathize with her. Let her talk and you listen, nod and give her all the hugs she needs while she is visiting with you.

I added this P.S. in my own mind:

That’s what I would do if my mama came to call. Then I had to go cry. Yeah. 😦

A COMMENTARY FROM THE HEART

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WHILE IT IS STILL CALLED TODAY
Remember the old saying, “You can’t judge a book by its cover” – ??? Well, the same principle applies to people. We have a tendency to look at those that have nice things and think that they don’t need for any THING, so apparently they don’t need people in their life either. To quote my dear daddy, “People mean more than things.”

Respect your fellow human being, treat them fairly, disagree with them honestly, enjoy their friendship, explore your thoughts about one another candidly, work together for a common goal and help one another achieve it.   – Bill Bradley

Sometimes when people hold so tightly to objects, it’s an effort to find value in themselves. They think they have value because they own this or that. Most of us realize that stuff may have some value, but it does not define who we are as a person. Don’t dismiss people based on what they have or don’t have. A person could live in a mansion, but that does not mean they are happy there. If a person seems “rich” to you, look more closely. Maybe they are poor and lonely, hiding behind the gates of their mansion.

In everyone’s life, at some time, our inner fire goes out. It is then burst into flame by an encounter with another human being. We should all be thankful for those people who rekindle the inner spirit. – Albert Schweitzer

Of course, that’s not to say that the Holy Spirit of God goes away – that will never happen. I think everyone just goes through times when we feel a little encouragement would be nice. I can think of specific times when God has made it clear that He wants me to pursue someone for a friend. I’m not always obedient to His prompting, but there are many rewards when I am. God has allowed some wonderful people to cross my path.

Love people. Someone could be lonely and need your friendship.