I STILL BELIEVE AS I GRIEVE

TL I STILL BELIEVE AS I GRIEVE

HONOR
I still want to honor my mom.

 

Being hopeful about the future might motivate you to make healthier decisions.   – Julia Boehm, PhD

I’m learning that everyone grieves at a different pace, on a different schedule. I have empathy and patience with others who don’t seem to be moving along as quickly as I think they should. After nine long years, I have decided to part with my mother’s couch and love seat from the 1980’s. I felt a peace about my decision and posted a status on facebook. One of my close friends sent me an instant message to let me know that she would be interested in having mom’s furniture. I was thrilled! Now I know that it is going to a great home – the home of my friend! Now I have no anxiety about letting it go – and my friend benefits also – it’s a real win / win!!! We call it a “God thing”.

God knows the desires of your heart. He knows why you hang on to the things of the past. He knows the memories associated with the things you cling to – and He knows how to help you walk forward and let them go if you have the desire to do so. Don’t part with anything unless you are very sure you are ready. Don’t rush yourself into anything when it comes to grief. Don’t let anyone else rush you! Some of the nicest people on the planet can try to dictate to you what you should and should not keep. They don’t know what means the most to you. Listen to your heart.

I must say when it comes to taste in furniture, my mom and I were polar opposites! She chose pastel colors and material that could not stand much “wear”, while I am definitely a leather girl – give me an overstuffed leather chair and ottoman and I am a very happy camper! I don’t want to have to treat my furniture with kid gloves like she did. Of course if you cut leather with a knife it is history, but generally it is quite sturdy and will last a good long while!

H = Happy
O = Optimistic
P = Passionate
E = Enthusiastic

I WILL keep H.O.P.E. alive in my soul. God has a great future planned for me! My stability is not dependent on any material possession, whether it is mom’s or mine. I have hope for the future because Jesus is alive and living in me!