A COMMENTARY FROM THE HEART

TL A COMMENTARY FROM THE HEART (24)1-peter-3-34Remember reading the stories about pirates and buried treasure when you were a kid?  The treasure was always gold coins and expensive jewelry.  The pirates could hardly wait to get their hands on it – not because they wanted to wear it, but because it was something of value they could sell or pawn for cash.

Most women have nice jewelry – because they like to wear it.  Some just feel better when they’re dripping in it, and others – believe it or not, are actually trying to hide behind it.  They don’t feel worthy enough without it.  The more expensive it is, the more they like it.  I have a friend who admits she used to be like that.  She was a bit on the heavy side, and thought if she wore large, gaudy, but real jewels, it would detract people’s attention from her size.

God wants you to know you are fine without the decorations.  He loves the you on the inside and couldn’t care less about all the trimmings.  He isn’t either impressed or intimidated by gold, silver, pearls, diamonds or any other gems you may want to name.  Heaven has streets paved with gold…  that should tell us something.  He uses gold to pave streets like Cornejo uses asphalt.  Ponder that for a while…

The Lord looks on the heart, not the wardrobe, jewelry box, or hair salon results.  Sometimes, the circumstances in life force us to change our priorities about vanity.  I hope you don’t look in the mirror and decide that you’re having a bad hair day, so you won’t leave the house.  My goodness, don’t let that stop you.  Put on your ball cap and GO!  Live as long as you have breath.  God loves you so much and has so much to show you – but much of it is outside your house, not inside.17101674_1899358353641959_272982276_n

If you really want to meet other people where they are, expensive baubles can hinder you from doing that.  Be genuine in your friendship, without pretense, and most people will respond in like.  When people put on airs, that’s when they soon learn that friendship can be difficult to gain.

I’m reminded of my favorite British comedy, “Keeping Up Appearances”.  Hyacinth is what I refer to as “high maintenance” –  but only in the most socially acceptable way, of course.

There are two points to be taken today.  The first is, God loves YOU – not what you adorn yourself with.  And, He doesn’t want you loving your adornments, or depending on them to define you.  He wants you to love HIM above all – and just be your genuine self.  You don’t need make-up, jewelry, a fancy hairstyle or designer clothing to do that.  🙂

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NATIONAL SENIOR CITIZENS DAY

8-21 NATIONAL SENIOR CITIZENS DAY

The older I get, the younger everyone else looks!  – Linda Palmer

 

TOO OLDBODIES NEW AND STRONG

When my mother turned 65, she started getting all that “fun” mail…  you know, all the “old people” mail.  She was visibly angered and depressed about it.  As her only child, I knew I had my work cut out for me to make her 65th birthday a happy one.  She was a valentine baby – her birthday was February 15th, but we always celebrated with lots of hearts and roses.  The normal routine was for me to bake her a heart-shaped cake with number candles on top.  I had to do something extra special for her 65th…  I had no idea what that would be, but I had to nail it.  And this year I didn’t think she’d like having the numbers 6 and 5 staring at her from a heart-shaped cake.

Mama loved girly things like hairstyles and makeovers and spa stuff.  Our Towne West mall was only 7 years old in 1987.  It was fun and hopping and there were all sorts of girly stores at the time.  I wanted her to be pampered, but on my budget I couldn’t afford very much.  I went in to Dillard’s to talk to a sweet lady in the cosmetic department.

Lisa was not a young person but not old either.  She listened to my story about how mom was celebrating a milestone and she had received all this mail that made her feel like it was time to go out to pasture.  She understood exactly what I was talking about and we plotted and planned such a great makeover for her!  Lisa and I talked for TWO hours!  She didn’t seem to be concerned that she’d lost some sales in that time.  I was so impressed with her.  This was one birthday that I knew my mama was going to enjoy.

There’s something you should know about me…  I never get away with surprising anybody – EVER!  I am the worst surprise party giver that ever lived.  I was so afraid that somehow my mom was going to find out about her surprise makeover.  I swore my family to secret – all two of them – but they were both men, so…  my husband and my dad.  My bases were covered…  and I was so anxious for the Saturday before her birthday to roll around.

Saturday rolled around.  There was not any significant snowfall, for which I was thankful.  My boss said we didn’t have to work, for which I was even more thankful.  Everything was working out great!  I called mom just to make sure she was getting ready to go.  She said, “Oh, I’m not sure I feel up to it today.  Can we go out next week?”

NO NO NO – we can’t!!!  I didn’t say it, but I sure thought it.  OK, compose yourself and don’t appear too eager.  “Well, you know I’ve worked most Saturdays lately and I didn’t have to work today, so I may not get another opportunity to get out on a Saturday again for a while.”

There was a pause in the conversation that seemed to last forever.  I waited for a response…  wait for it…  wait for it…

“Oh, okay.  I’ll be ready when you get here.”

YES – SCORE!

I got off the phone, grabbed my purse, dug out my keys and headed out the door.  As I got in the car, I saw the first snowflake.  I thought, “OK, we can get this done quick and get back before it gets too bad.”

When I got to mom’s, she was not quite dressed.  From the looks of things, she had tried on about 4 different outfits.  I looked at my watch and looked out the window…  it was getting late and the snow was falling.  It’s my mom…  it’s her day…  and she needs to feel pretty.  She was always pretty.  The only one who never knew it was her – even though I told her every day.

I gave her my honest opinions about what looked best and she got dressed.  She put on her coat and we cautiously walked to the car.  The snow was still just drifting around and didn’t look like it was going to be too bad.  Yay – we were on our way to the mall.  I was so excited.

Once in the car, mom said, “Are you sure you want to go to the mall today?  It looks like it’s going to snow like this for a while.”  I assured her that it will be fine – just fine.  I was determined that this was going to happen for her.  She was the best mom in the world and deserved the best birthday.

We made it to the mall and I parked as close as I could to Dillard’s.  Surprisingly, mom didn’t ask what we were doing at that particular store, but I had a story all ready.  I used it anyway because it took me so long to come up with it – :-/  “I just need to quick grab a new mascara here at Dillard’s and they’re the only ones who have what I like.”  See – isn’t that a great excuse???  I thought so.  Actually, the only make-up I buy is from Walmart and there is no counter.  I can’t afford make-up from behind a counter.

We slowly walked to the door.  The snow was starting to stick a little more now, but I wasn’t overly concerned.  My mind was on mom’s surprise birthday present.

When I saw Lisa, she got the biggest smile on her face!  “Hello, Mrs. Turner!”  You should have seen the look on mama’s face.  She couldn’t figure out why this lady knew her name!  It was funny and one of the best memories tucked in my mind.  Lisa and I started laughing and explained what was going on to my poor mother.

I knew at that moment that it was worthwhile…  the time, the effort, the planning.  I think it was the best time and mom felt so special and pampered.  I bought a few of her favorite products and she bought a few.  We laughed and chatted and we were just girls being girls – of all ages.  I think for a little while, mama forgot she was 65, she forgot about the mail, the stigma, the meaning behind being that particular age.

I’m not good at surprise parties as a general rule.  I try to make birthdays special and sometimes I think surprises are fun – but on my mom’s 65th birthday…  I NAILED IT!

When she was all prettied up, we waded back out to the car.  The snow had stopped falling and it wasn’t freezing, so we pulled into Spear’s restaurant across the street to get a cup of coffee.  I mentioned that it was my mother’s birthday, and the waitress gave us a free piece of pumpkin bread, which tastes more like cake.  It was our family’s favorite treat year around, not just in the autumn months.

I wish I could have taken a photo.  We didn’t have digital cameras back then.  I didn’t make a habit of carrying my Polaroid camera around with me.  My mother was beautiful – and more importantly, she felt beautiful and that made me very happy!

If you know a senior citizen, give them a call or visit them and let them know how much they mean to you.  They just want to know they are still important to someone.  Happy National Senior Citizens Day!  🙂

 

 

HALLOWEEN

TL 10-31 HALLOWEEN

10-31 COSTUMES, MASKS & MAKE-UP
I would not call it a fear… but I’m very uncomfortable around people who are dressed in costumes, wearing masks or who are heavily made up. I like to look a person in the eye because I believe that old saying is true:

The eye is the window of the soul, the mouth the door. The intellect, the will, are seen in the eye; the emotions, sensibilities, and affections, in the mouth. The animals look for man’s intentions right into his eyes. Even a rat, when you hunt him and bring him to bay, looks you in the eye. – Hiram Powers

When I’m communicating with someone, I like to be able to look them in the eye. To judge a reaction you need to be able to see a person’s eyes. I guess the “fake” happiness that clowns have just creeps me out. I mean, doesn’t a clown ever have a really bad day? Do they have to be SO happy all the time?

When I was little, my parents took me to the North Pole. No, not the real North Pole, but to an amusement park in Colorado that had a North Pole theme. They told me I’d “get” to go see Santa – and I cried. I’m probably the only kid in the world who cried when told they were going to see Santa. My poor parents – they had a weirdo child.

If you’re alone, I’ll be your shadow. If you want to cry, I’ll be your shoulder. If you want a hug, I’ll be your pillow. If you need to be happy, I’ll be your smile. But anytime you need a friend, I’ll just be me.
– unknown

To be a real friend, lose the costume, mask and make-up. Just be yourself.    🙂

I miss the good ol’ days when kids could dress up like Bugs Bunny and be safe.

Here are some photos of my Halloween memories.

Happy Halloween!  Boo to You!  🙂

 

CANDY CORN DAY

TL 10-30 CANDY CORN DAY

 

10-30 THE TOO SWEET TREAT

Today we celebrate CANDY CORN!  The makers of this ultra-sweet treat will market the fact that it is fat-free, but make no mistake it is not healthy.

The belly rules the mind.  – Spanish Proverb

If you decide to eat it, make sure it is in small portions, especially if you are diabetic.  Here is how a nutrition label reads on a package of Brach’s candy corn:

Nutrition Facts
Serving Size 19 pieces (39 g)
Per Serving % Daily Value*

Calories 140

Calories from Fat 0

Total Fat 0g 0%

Sodium 70mg 3%

Carbohydrates 36g 12%

Sugars 32g

Protein 0g

For only 19 pieces you get a whopping 36g of carbohydrates and 32g of sugars, including corn syrup, honey and granulated sugar.  That is literally a sweet treat to be sure!  If you are passing a bowl that happens to have some candy corn in it, it’s fine to take a few in your hand, but if you are contemplating the purchase of an entire package, well, there are more healthy candy choices.

I do, however, suggest that diabetics and others who are counting carbohydrates have fun with the candy corn colors in other ways that will not play havoc on our health!  Take a look at this:

Isn’t that cool?  No weight gain and you can still make a fashion statement!

So you can have the nails and the make-up!  You can become a candy corn instead of consuming them!  How fun is that?

Now here’s a cute idea!  Let’s make a few of these (and you can shoot rubber bands at people in the process – that’s a win/win).  So now we can wear the nails, make-up and put a charm in our hair – well there ya go!  Now we’re cookin’ with grease!  OH…  I found a candy corn bracelet!

If you are artistically inclined, this is a great challenge!  I would be interested to see more candy corn sculptures like this.  It’s interesting that it’s made with one serving of candy corn = 20 pieces (well, 19 + 1).

You get the idea – let’s take our minds off the eating of candy corn and put them on the fun colors and BE the candy corn!  Just have fun with it.  😀