When you were a child did you play on the teeter totter??? My friends and I spent hours on it – going up and down while we said little rhymes, like:
Bread and water,
Wash a fish with dirty water.
We also had fun with this classic as we went up and down:
Teeter totter up and down,
This is the way to London town,
One foot up, one foot down,
This is the way to London town.
If you were to try to play on a teeter totter alone, you’d find it quite difficult if not impossible. It takes two people to make a teeter totter work correctly. As children we learn how to play together and get along so that when we grow up we will know how to socialize, interact and work together. There are not many things you can do alone – or should have to do alone. A marriage is a great example of teamwork in action. If both people are not completely committed to it, the chances of success are slim at best.
Friendship is another good example of teamwork. Many times in life I have been on a teeter totter with a friend for a time, just to realize that while I’m up in the air, they decide to get off – then I go crashing to the ground! I think that has happened to most of us – but as we get older we just see it as a part of life. Every friend crosses our path for a certain purpose and for a given amount of time. It’s rare that a friendship is really forever. If you have one forever friend, you have a rare gift.
We should ask ourselves three questions before we speak: Is it true? Is it kind? Does it glorify Christ? – Billy Graham
The ups and downs of any relationship are inevitable, whether it’s a marriage or a friendship. God did not make robots – He made human beings. We are moody and have a vast range of emotions and desires. What works for us one day may not work for us the next. It’s sad when one wants to grow and move beyond the status quo while the other wants to stay stuck in a rut. To say this is unhealthy is a dramatic understatement. Not only is one person unhappy and dissatisfied, but it does not please God either. He wants His children to grow in grace.
Choose the one you play on the teeter totter with very carefully. Make sure you choose someone who plays fair and won’t suddenly get off the teeter totter when they reach the ground, sending you straight down for a crash landing!
If you have the courage to walk away from toxicity in relationships, your life will improve. Once you know people who truly love and care for you, you will wonder why you did not move on sooner. Even if you are alone with no relationship or no friends, you are still better off than you were with the toxic people. Eventually you will find good people to surround yourself with – and life will be better and you will be much happier.
I’ll play on the teeter totter with you – but you have to play nice!
I know a Man who will never let you down!!! His name is Jesus. ❤