It may hurt, but a Christian friend will always be honest with you about everything. Do I really want anything less? No. No, I don’t. – Linda Palmer
I cherish my Christian friends because of their honesty. More importantly, I am so thankful for the tact and sweetness with which they convey that honesty. When you love someone in the Lord, you always make the attempt to be loving and kind – so even when you have to be honest, it doesn’t have to be brutal.
As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another. – Proverbs 27:17
Unfortunately, there is an over abundance of people who are brutally honest. It doesn’t even bother me that they are that way, but it’s the attitude that underlies that brutality – like they are proud of the fact that they are brutal. It seems so unnecessary and cruel to me. It’s not God’s way of doing things. There’s an old saying – “God don’t like ugly.” To tell you the truth, He doesn’t like cruel much either.
If a person has to fling corrective criticism at me, I’d rather it be a fellow believer than not. Sparing me of certain phrases and words from the sewer suits me fine. A sweet friend of mine once said, “If a person has to resort to language like that, they clearly lack imagination.” Lee is long gone, but her wise words live on in my heart and spirit.
Many in the world and of the world have said they don’t “trust” the ways of Christ. If a person is going to criticize, they think, it should be mean spirited – or the point will not get across. They don’t believe the lesson can be learned without brutality and vulgarity.
I pity them because it takes so much emotional energy to be that way. They refuse to cast their burdens on the Lord, so they still carry them around. No wonder it’s easy for them to lose control of temper and lash out at others. As Christians, we give our stress and anxiety to God, lighten our own burden, thus we’re able to be sweet spirited in any circumstance.
But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law. – Galatians 5:22-23
In all circumstances we portray the fruits of the spirit:
I’m so very thankful for my Christian friends. In this mean, brutal, cruel world, we sure do need each other! 🙂