FROM MY HEART TO YOURS

tl-from-my-heart-to-yoursFebruary is a rough month for me – I’ll just admit it.  It’s a time when I remember a lot of happy times that I’ll never get back.  My mom’s birthday was the 15th and my dad’s birthday was the 21st – just a week apart!  I always baked a heart-shaped cake for my mom – and put pink or red icing on it with little red-hot candies.  We never had fancy celebrations, but we had each other and that’s what really mattered.  I can’t remember any of the gifts I gave her, but I remember the love in the room while she opened each of them.  ❤

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My dad loved German chocolate cake – and I’m not a baker – so to the boxed cake aisle I’d go to pick up a mix and some icing – although I’m not sure you can call that icing – I suppose it is…  that coconut concoction.  LOL!  Dad’s cake was a simple 9×13 sheet cake – I never made a cake that had to be stacked – I’m practical – and if that puppy had to ride in the car with me – it was going to be a sheet cake!  ❤

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I have memories recorded on 8mm film – which a few years back I had put on DVD.  There’s no sound, but I can read lips just fine.  I remember every word, even though I can’t hear their voices.  I can’t hear their voices…  but I will hear them again.  I’m not without hope – nope. 

I’ve made a sort of study out of this grief journey.  This blog is one manifestation of my grief experience.  I hope it’s made me more empathetic to others, if nothing else.  When people you love die, you don’t have anywhere for that love to go anymore.  This month I went out to the cemetery and replaced the flowers – but there were no hugs, no smiles, no warm greetings.  Thankfully, there was no snow, or it would have been colder still.  There’s nothing quite so cold and, well, dead…  as a cemetery.  Without faith to sustain, it would appear that it’s all over and there’s no hope.  Ah, but there is faith – there is hope.  I’m not without hope – nope. 

One of these days my Savior will come for me and all who have asked Him into their hearts and lives.  Whether I have the opportunity to live out a full life and die – or get snatched up and fly away…  it really doesn’t matter because I’m going to see Christ face to face.  These memories I hang on to for now…  well, I won’t need those anymore.  I’m not going to pretend to know exactly what lies ahead – but I trust God, through my Savior – and whatever it is…  it’s okay by me.  ❤

Here’s what I do know.  I will see my family again – and it’s going to be great because there will be hugs, smiles, and warm greetings – and we will never have to say good-bye again!  ❤

A Prayer for the Grieving

Lord, please come sit with me today. I need you now as I’m so sad. My heart can’t take much more. Just let me feel again. God, please heal my broken heart. In the quietness, I feel closest to you. Help me to serve others despite the pain. Let peace and love surround all who grieve today, tomorrow and always. I trust you to carry me through this long journey of grief and pain. Thank you for allowing me to share the life of my precious loved one. Please give me comfort in my pain, your love to see me through, and your strength to keep me going. Amen.

When they died, I thought I might too.  But somewhere along the way, the memories took over where the pain was once so raw I thought I couldn’t stand it.  ❤

You know, everyone in school was a bit jealous of me because I was an only child and didn’t have to “share” anything with siblings when I was at home – but let me tell ya…  there’s a flip side to being the only one – it’s lonely when you realize you’re responsible for everything.  I relied so heavily on my parents, not only for moral support, but for spiritual support.  I knew they prayed for me every day.  I miss those prayers so much.  ❤

 

FEBRUARY IS CREATIVE ROMANCE MONTH

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16507871_10208305925788410_7103125311010103263_nThis is Allyson & Jim…  and a story about one dreggy day.

So here’s the deal…  every woman is different and their needs and wants are different.  There’s a magical time in a marriage when a husband “gets” his woman…  that is, he understands her and realizes that, while she may be different from any other, that’s okay, because she’s the only one he absolutely has to get to know very well.  In the marriage vows, I believe it’s worded like this:

forsaking all others and cleave only to her.

Married people leave all others…  and cleave to one.  Forever.  It can be a long time if you’re with the wrong one – but time can fly by with the right one.

About a week ago, I stumbled upon a post from Allyson on facebook.  It was a photo of Jim.  I laughed…  it was a good fifteen minute laugh, which as everyone knows, is like doing 100 sit ups.  Okay I think it’s more like 60 sit ups, but anyhow…16708458_10206359702110139_8345702575977823596_n

The post said:

Jim wearing his geezer glasses and squatch hat because I needed to be entertained after the dreggy day I had.

After I regained my composure, I asked Ally if I could use this photo in my blog, (half expecting her to say no).  What a sport she is (and he is too, I might add)…  because they gave me permission.  To Jim I say – WELL DONE!  Does he know how to cheer Ally up, or what?  ❤

You know, young people think it’s all about the bedroom – but guess what?  As your marriage matures and deepens, it’s so much better and much more meaningful. ❤

We’ve all had “dreggy” days, haven’t we?  We need that partner in life who understands that a little comic relief can go a long way to making it all worthwhile.  Our jobs – how we make a living – that’s not our life.  The happiest couples are the ones who understand that simple truth.  I see posts from many friends on facebook – posts that reflect family fun and adventures.  Those are the families that will be okay because they know how to really enjoy one another.  ❤

I guess today I’d encourage everyone to lighten up and learn to enjoy the members of your family.  Life is fleeting and uncertain.  If you see that your significant other has had a “dreggy” day, step up and make it better!  You have that power as the life partner and soul mate to do that – you’re the only one who can!  Actually, as the life partner – it’s in your job description, if you want the truth about it.  As Nike says…  JUST DO IT!  Be the life partner who does funny stuff to make life more fun for the rest of your family.  ❤

Take the creative romance challenge…  and remember – it doesn’t have to involve much – sometimes it just takes a pair of geezer glasses and a squatch hat.  I don’t know about you, but I call that CREATIVE.  ❤

Keep posting those cute photos, you guys!  God bless you – and keep laughing.  ❤

 

 

A COMMENTARY FROM THE HEART

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After removing Saul, he made David their king. He testified concerning him: ‘I have found David son of Jesse a man after my own heart; he will do everything I want him to do.’  – Acts 13:22

Happy February!  This is the month when hearts are seen everywhere – heart-shaped candy, heart-shaped cards, heart-shaped everything – actually that is valentine-shaped, because as we know, an actual heart is not the same shape as a valentine.  ❤

We could talk about valentines, but this is not the valentine hunger blog, it’s the heart hunger blog.  The heart is the seat of everything – thoughts, attitudes, emotions and ultimately, actions.  David was made king and was a man after God’s own heart – wow.  Was David a perfect man?  Oh no.  Was he forgiven and allowed to move on, having learned some very painful lessons?  Oh yes.  Our God is a God of second chances.  If you’ve been a Christian for any amount of time, you know that one thing for sure and for certain.  ❤

We fall down – we get up.  The saints are just the sinners who fall down and get up.  ❤  We don’t have to be perfect, and in fact it is not possible for us to be perfect.  But we believe that God will help us when we mess up so much that we are ready to give up.  That is how David came to be known as a man after God’s own heart.  ❤

Nothing we accomplish is done on our own.  We give God all the glory and honor for every success in life.  If it seems all you are doing is going around in circles and getting you nowhere, ask God to help you.  He will take the heavy load you bear and make a clear path for you.  God has a plan for every life, and He will help you find yours.  ❤

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Isn’t February, the month of heart-shaped everything, the best time to find out about the heart of our God?  We know from this portion of Scripture that He recognized David as having a heart like His…  I can’t think of a better compliment, can you?  I want to know more about God’s heart and strive to have a heart just like His, don’t you?  ❤

 

FEBRUARY IS NATIONAL HAIKU WRITING MONTH

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It’s a weird word – haiku…
What is it?

It’s a Japanese poetry form concerned with sound and syllables. As the picture tells, the first line consists of 5 syllables, the middle line, 7, and the last line, 5, to create a total of 17 syllables and none of them rhyme.

Traditional Japanese haiku poems are about nature, but now we have contemporary English haiku poems which do not adhere to the typical syllable count, some falling to 15 or 10 syllables in a poem or exceeding the 3 line structure.

However, for the purposes of this little exercise, let’s say that a haiku is 3 lines, 5-7-5 syllables respectively and do not rhyme.  Here are some examples:
cake candy cookies
tasting  nibbling indulging
a woman’s reward.
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licks, tails, and snuggles
unconditional and true
every one’s best friend.
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dark clouds moving in
hovering, thickening
time to be quiet.
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blue skies and water
calming and inviting

everyone needs peace.

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tiny hands and feet
reaching, stumbling, playing
A feeling of  joy.
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The focus is on a brief moment in time; a use of provocative, colorful images; an ability to be read in one breath; and a sense of sudden enlightenment and illumination.
I remember writing haiku back in school, but I’ve definitely slept since then!  Thank you, Lucinda, for the wonderful refresher course!
Let’s see if I can write a haiku…
I am so sleepy
I should count fluffy white sheep
I just want to sleep.
Hey – I did it!!!  How many haiku writings will you work on today???  Maybe you could write a haiku for your special Valentine this year – hmm…  just a thought.  Write from your heart because that’s all that really matters.  Make it fun because life is too short.  Be yourself because nobody does that better than you do!  Wink!  😉

FEBRUARY IS HEART MONTH

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A HAPPY HEALTHY HEART

February is AMERICAN HEART MONTH!!!  Because I am a type 2 diabetic, I have a higher risk of heart disease.  My friend who happens to be a nurse at a cardiac clinic told me that over half of their patients have type 2 diabetes.  That means I need to be just as careful as I can about my diet and exercise.  There is one more thing, and I believe it is as important to the equation as any of the others…  I try to have a positive outlook and be happy! 

I have made no secret of the fact that I claim joy from God’s Holy Spirit.  Joy is the unique feeling of contentment in all circumstances that only comes when God’s Holy Spirit lives inside.  He is the one who provides comfort and confidence no matter what is going on around me.  There is a calm that I really cannot explain, but I definitely feel.  No, I do not have my head buried in the sand – I’m perfectly aware of the situation in the world around me.  I know about current events, but I know I serve a God who has it all under control.

It is the Holy Spirit’s job to convict, God’s job to judge and my job to love.  – Billy Graham

The Holy Spirit does more than convict – he navigates me through this maze called life.  When I pray and in turn listen to His leading with faith in my heart, I know God will make a way where there is not a way I can see.  He’s done it so many times for me in the past and I know He will do it again.

Where your heart is concerned, it’s very important to eliminate as much stress as you can.  Once you decide to put your life in God’s capable hands, you also put all the problems at His feet.  Just because we lean on God does not mean that troubles and stress will not come our way – um…  no!  We just know what to do when it shows up.  I know without a doubt that I can rely on Jesus to take those burdens and then take care of me.

I submit to you today that the way to a happy, healthy heart begins with a relationship with Christ and the conscience and comforter, the Holy Spirit.  When Christ ascended to heaven He did not leave us alone to flounder – He left the Holy Spirit with us to help us.  I’m so grateful for this precious gift from Jesus – aren’t you?  🙂