TL A COMMENTARY FROM THE HEART (30)On Memorial Day I looked in the mirror and noticed a lot more gray hairs than ever before.  So many thoughts ran through my mind, including the cost of a professional highlight or color job.  My hair has always had natural highlights and lowlights – the problem is that now those highlights are gray – and they’re starting to wash me out!

I’ve noticed some posts on facebook lately advertising the newest summer hair colors and styles – one of the popular colors is called COFFEE BLONDE.  Hmm…  I thought…  coffee!  It peaked my interest and I started searching the internet.  I found several articles and recipes for natural and chemical-free hair staining.  It’s like a natural henna – and I like the idea of no chemicals damaging my baby fine hair.HAIR STAINIt will probably last until my next shampoo – but the good news is, I’m not going to lose hair like I do when I use the permanent hair color from the box.  There’s no peroxide and no real danger involved.  The amount of instant coffee granules, brewed coffee and conditioner is so inexpensive.  I don’t know about you, but I never use my shampoo and conditioner at the same rate – I have tons of leftover conditioner!  It’s really a win/win.  I can afford to do this just before I wash my hair – not a big deal.

There’s only one side effect (if you can call it that)…  my hair smells like COFFEE.  LOL!!!

It’s just one more frugal thing to try just for fun.  If you want  a dramatic red/burgundy, you can use beet juice.  A cinnamon tea also leaves a bit of brownish/red tint (and the scent would be good too).  Of course for years blondes used mayonnaise or lemon juice in addition to their regular shampoo and conditioner to make their hair shine.

If you are daring and want a more dramatic change, how about sugar-free KOOL-AID???  Yeah – and it’s pretty simple.  The results will show up more on dry hair than on wet hair – and the lighter your hair is, the more dramatic the color will be.  Here’s what you need:

3-6 packages of SUGAR-FREE KOOL-AID (depending on the length of your hair) in a large glass bowl.  Please make sure it’s sugar-free because you do NOT want sticky hair.

Mix with a little conditioner (about 1/4 cup or so) and some hot water.  Stir until you have a paste-like consistency – don’t add too much water or it will be too runny.

I’d wear gloves because it will definitely stain your skin.  If you do get some on your skin, it can be easily removed – no worries.

If you want all of your hair colored, dunk your head in the bowl and massage paste into scalp and on hair.  Or for streaks, put it only where you want it.

Put long pieces of plastic wrap around your head.  Then put a plastic bag over that and secure with a chip clip or tie in a knot on top.

Sleep in it – yeah, I know – just do it.

The next morning, remove the bag and plastic wrap.  Hop in the shower and rinse your hair.  DO NOT SHAMPOO!  If you shampoo, it will wash all the Kool-Aid out.

There are tons of alternatives to harsh chemicals that can potentially BLIND you if it gets in your eyes!  Nothing that harsh should go on anyone’s scalp – or their hair.  Even henna has ingredients that are too harsh in my opinion.

It’s fun to try new colors and it doesn’t take long to go from drab to dazzling!  What will you do today?  Start June with something different.  🙂



Colors are the smiles of nature.  – Leigh Hunt

It’s yellow…  it’s happy!  Can you dig it???

If you do not feel your best in the morning and are deciding what to wear for the day, it’s tempting to find the most dull outfit in your closet, put it on and hope no one notices you all day.  Admit it, you’ve done it and so have I.

Even on the days you feel the worst, fix your hair, make up your face (don’t forget the coordinating shade of lipstick), and dress up!  It may not work immediately, but a splash of yellow to relay happiness to others or a smidge of orange to share joy will have you feeling more positive soon.  At least it will look to others like you have it together and are feeling happy and joyful.  The joy and happiness will reach you eventually – believe me.

I’ve learned so much from the ladies at the hair salon!  Every one of them is over 70 (some well over), and they dress up, make-up and SHOW UP!!!  They wear bright colors with bright lipstick and big smiles.  They may be walking with a walker or a cane, but they are never looking mousey or tacky.

What is color therapy?  Well, there is a strong bond between colors and emotions.  Some people love black because it is a secure color.  I wear a lot of black because it makes me look thinner and hides a multitude of bulges (unless it’s my black one-piece swimsuit).  Some folks hate black and see it as depressing, evil and cold.  It depends on a person’s life experiences.

My emotions can go either way when I see teal blue.  It was my mama’s favorite color.  She was buried in her favorite teal blue dress, she did a lot of decorating with teal.  She had the most beautiful fox fur coat with a teal satin lining.  Sometimes I’m okay and just smile and think back.  Other times, I have to excuse myself and go somewhere to cry and get myself together.  Color can trigger emotions because our senses are so tuned in to them.  Almost everyone has certain trigger colors that cause a knee-jerk reaction.

Have you ever had a color reading?  I did a few years ago when it was quite trendy.  It was all in fun at a women’s ministries meeting one Saturday morning.  They told me I should not wear a high collar (which I already knew) since I have practically no neck.  They also said that the color pink is my perfect color.  A pink button-down shirt works best.

The interesting part was what I should not wear.  They told me to stay completely away from white.  The quick-witted comedian I am, I had to pop off.  I said to the ladies assembled,

So, folks – if we are going to be robed in white when we get to heaven…  well, I’ll just offer up my apologies ahead of time!

The ladies got a kick out of it, but the ones doing the reading…  um…  not so much.  They were trying to be serious and I guess I blew it.

They told me that while red is usually a “go-to” color, I should walk away from red.  Apparently it brings out my rather “ruddy” complexion.  Well, we Dutch tend to have a bit of red in our cheeks, so…  I should not “go-to” it.  I should “run from” it.

I’m a Spring, so they tell me.  I’m supposed to dress in pastels.  But I think sometimes we need to dress in a way that lifts our spirits.  Splash a colorful scarf or necklace around your neck.  Wear those red shoes.  I don’t always wear pastel colors.  Today I wore an emerald-green V-neck and blue jeans with a Celtic knot necklace and matching earrings.

At some point in my life, I plan to join “The Red Hat Society”.  Now THAT is some color therapy!  I remember when mama told me that you never wear red and purple together.  Well, mom, guess what???


And what of life?  Is it black and white, or are there some shades of gray?

Even bad guys (most of them, anyway) see themselves as good – they are the heroes of their own lives.  Giving them a fair chance as characters can create some interesting shades of gray – and shades of gray are also a part of life.  – Stephen King

Hey – it’s my color therapy.  Who says I have to follow the color guru’s rules?  Wink!  😉




Good Day!  It’s FANCY RAT AND MOUSE DAY!!!  You can’t make this stuff up!  Well, we celebrate every day here on this blog, so let’s see what we can do today!  I suppose for starters, we can learn more about fancy mice.

The American Fancy Rat and Mouse Association (AFRMA) was founded in 1983 and is a non-profit international club in Southern California. Anyone that has an interest in rats or mice can be a member. The main purpose of AFRMA is to promote and encourage the breeding and exhibition of fancy rats and mice.

There are certain standards that organizations such as the National Mouse Club in England aspire to when breeding mice.  I have a close friend who showed her Doberman in dog shows all over the country, and these mice are shown in much the same way.  They are judged by color as well as coat type.  A coat with a high gloss is called Satin.  Longhaired and Astrex is a fancy mouse with a wavy coat and curly whiskers.

The early bird gets the worm, but the second mouse gets the cheese.  – Willie Nelson

Fancy mice are members of the species Mus Musculus, being descended from the House Mouse along with the laboratory mouse and ordinary pet mouse.  Selective breeding has produced fancy mice that look quite different from the pet and laboratory mice.  Fancy mice are larger than other mice and have longer tails and larger ears.  They are much prettier than the other mice.  It’s important that fancy mice be docile at a show.  There is not typically a nervous mouse represented at the AFRMA show.

Some of these wacky holidays are interesting because we expand our horizons and learn about new things.  How could we possibly celebrate this holiday?  Hmm…  give me a minute – I’ll come up with something – wink!   😉

I know!  Let’s eat an ounce of cheese today in honor of these pretty mice!   😀






I had a thought; an idea of how something would work. I was so sure it was right! I was so confident that it would be perfect and I was so excited to get started on the project!  My heart was in the right place and my intentions were good.

In our old house, we painted an accent wall in our basement, then built shelves to display some dishes. It turned out so well. I am not brave enough to paint an entire accent wall in this house. Yes, I am a coward! I decided the next best thing was to paint one small table a beautiful Chinese Red. I reasoned that a table could be re-painted or discarded if it didn’t go well.

It did not go well. My little table was absolutely orange! The poor little thing looked like a pumpkin when it was finished. I kept saying, “It will dry darker – it’s going to turn Chinese Red by the time it’s dry.” Nope – didn’t happen!  Of course, it was just a table so it wasn’t a life or death sort of impact.  But sometimes if we have good intentions and don’t seek God before we act, it can have a more serious impact – not just on us, but on others as well.  Here’s a somewhat exaggerated example.

How many times do we cry out to God that despite our best efforts and good intentions, things ended badly? I’ve done it and I’ll bet you have too. It’s much more difficult to praise God during those rough spots when the results are less than desirable.  It’s so easy to give God glory and honor when things end well, isn’t it?

On this day in 1962, Bob Dylan recorded BLOWIN’ IN THE WIND, a song that proved to be the most powerful protest song ever.  He insisted it was not written with that in mind, that it was not his intention for it to be used as a protest song.  You can listen to the song on You Tube.

This here ain’t no protest song or anything like that, ’cause I don’t write no protest songs.  – Bob Dylan

The lyrics we sing have unimaginable impact on society even though Dylan described his song as “just another song”.  Whether he wanted to see it or not, it became the unofficial anthem of the civil rights movement.

We must be more responsible and careful to pray over what we create.  Yes, God gives us the talent and the ability.  It is up to us to include Him in the creative process and make sure our end product glorifies Him.  We need to think about our intentions, pray to God about them and trust Him for the result.  ❤