FROM MY HEART TO YOURS

tl-from-my-heart-to-yoursFebruary is a rough month for me – I’ll just admit it.  It’s a time when I remember a lot of happy times that I’ll never get back.  My mom’s birthday was the 15th and my dad’s birthday was the 21st – just a week apart!  I always baked a heart-shaped cake for my mom – and put pink or red icing on it with little red-hot candies.  We never had fancy celebrations, but we had each other and that’s what really mattered.  I can’t remember any of the gifts I gave her, but I remember the love in the room while she opened each of them.  ❤

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My dad loved German chocolate cake – and I’m not a baker – so to the boxed cake aisle I’d go to pick up a mix and some icing – although I’m not sure you can call that icing – I suppose it is…  that coconut concoction.  LOL!  Dad’s cake was a simple 9×13 sheet cake – I never made a cake that had to be stacked – I’m practical – and if that puppy had to ride in the car with me – it was going to be a sheet cake!  ❤

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I have memories recorded on 8mm film – which a few years back I had put on DVD.  There’s no sound, but I can read lips just fine.  I remember every word, even though I can’t hear their voices.  I can’t hear their voices…  but I will hear them again.  I’m not without hope – nope. 

I’ve made a sort of study out of this grief journey.  This blog is one manifestation of my grief experience.  I hope it’s made me more empathetic to others, if nothing else.  When people you love die, you don’t have anywhere for that love to go anymore.  This month I went out to the cemetery and replaced the flowers – but there were no hugs, no smiles, no warm greetings.  Thankfully, there was no snow, or it would have been colder still.  There’s nothing quite so cold and, well, dead…  as a cemetery.  Without faith to sustain, it would appear that it’s all over and there’s no hope.  Ah, but there is faith – there is hope.  I’m not without hope – nope. 

One of these days my Savior will come for me and all who have asked Him into their hearts and lives.  Whether I have the opportunity to live out a full life and die – or get snatched up and fly away…  it really doesn’t matter because I’m going to see Christ face to face.  These memories I hang on to for now…  well, I won’t need those anymore.  I’m not going to pretend to know exactly what lies ahead – but I trust God, through my Savior – and whatever it is…  it’s okay by me.  ❤

Here’s what I do know.  I will see my family again – and it’s going to be great because there will be hugs, smiles, and warm greetings – and we will never have to say good-bye again!  ❤

A Prayer for the Grieving

Lord, please come sit with me today. I need you now as I’m so sad. My heart can’t take much more. Just let me feel again. God, please heal my broken heart. In the quietness, I feel closest to you. Help me to serve others despite the pain. Let peace and love surround all who grieve today, tomorrow and always. I trust you to carry me through this long journey of grief and pain. Thank you for allowing me to share the life of my precious loved one. Please give me comfort in my pain, your love to see me through, and your strength to keep me going. Amen.

When they died, I thought I might too.  But somewhere along the way, the memories took over where the pain was once so raw I thought I couldn’t stand it.  ❤

You know, everyone in school was a bit jealous of me because I was an only child and didn’t have to “share” anything with siblings when I was at home – but let me tell ya…  there’s a flip side to being the only one – it’s lonely when you realize you’re responsible for everything.  I relied so heavily on my parents, not only for moral support, but for spiritual support.  I knew they prayed for me every day.  I miss those prayers so much.  ❤

 

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INTERNATIONAL HAT DAY

WHY DO YOU WEAR A HAT?  – a blog poem sort of thing for International Hat Day by Linda Palmer © 2015

Do you wear a hat to feel good?

Does it make you feel like you’re great?

If that’s the reason, it’s okay,

Put it back on – don’t hesitate!

girl-204326Do you wear a hat to cover

Your head where there used to be hair?

Don’t worry, I won’t take it off

To reveal what’s now under there!

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photo courtesy of Dave Mock

Do you wear a hat to dress up

For Christmas or Easter Sunday?

It’s a form of Christian worship

To Jesus Christ, Who is the Way.

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photo courtesy of Lucinda Berry Hill

 

Do you wear a hat to show folks

That you can be easy going?

Is it your way to be relaxed

And show that with life you’re flowing?

 

Do you wear a hat that’s funny

Just to make other people smile?

I admire those who use humor

To help others walk the next mile.

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photo courtesy of Bill Woods

Do you wear a hat to go with

An entourage on wedding day?

The attention will be focused

On you for sure, what can I say?

 

Do you wear a hat to honor

This great country’s military?

Is it part of a uniform

As you serve civilians like me?

hats-557581Do you wear a hat just for fun?

Is it just what you want to do?

Far be it for me to change things,

God just wants for you to be you.

 

Do you wear a hat to keep warm?

A sock cap can be very nice.

Winter is coming and it’s cold,

There will be so much snow and ice.

girl-15715Do you wear a hat in summer

To keep the sun off of your face?

That’s a very good idea

Along with sunscreen everyplace!

fashion-985556If you like my little hat verse

I wish you’d leave a comment here.

Your comments mean a lot to me,

They fill my heart with love and cheer!

HAVE A VERY HAPPY INTERNATIONAL HAT DAY!  🙂

 

 

BLUE MONDAY

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WHEN CHRISTMAS IS OVER

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1-5 CHOOSE A SHADE OF BLUE

It’s BLUE MONDAY!  Now, how blue you allow yourself to be is completely up to you.  Choose your shade and rock your mood.  Why do we celebrate this day?  Well, there is no real scientific basis for it, however, it’s thought that a few factors lend themselves to a “let-down” blue mood:

1.  The Polar Vortex is bringing freezing cold temperatures to us.  Most of us don’t adapt to the cold as easily as we do to warm temperatures.

2.  We’ve been on a holiday high, celebrating Christmas with sugary foods we normally wouldn’t touch with a ten-foot pole.  Now most of us are saying we’re going to lose a ton of weight overnight – am I right?  That in itself is depressing.

3.  Speaking of those New Year’s Resolutions…  by now most of us have messed up and given up.  So, failure can obviously make us depressed.

4.  The bills are rolling in from all that Christmas fun!  I am taking all of my past-due bills and making them into Origami Cranes.  I may as well be creative while I’m waiting for money to fall in my lap, right?

5.  Most of us are heading back to work – back to the mundane routine of the 9-5 work week.  Well, we have to work to make money to pay for the Christmas fun – right?

Well – that was depressing!  Now, let’s look at this with an eye of rationality, shall we?

1.  God will see us through just like He always has.  We don’t have to be in a deep depression, so we can choose a lighter shade of blue today.  Remember that the Lord loves you and will take good care of you.

2.  It’s going to be okay.  If the weather is bringing you down, be thankful to God for your furnace and the warmth of a fireplace if you have one.

3.  If you made some resolutions for the new year and have been less than perfect – so what?  Is that a reason to give up?  Wow, I sure hope not!  Keep trying because that’s all anyone expects of you – don’t beat yourself up about that stuff.  Most resolutions are tough – or you wouldn’t have to make it every year (am I right?)  I make the same ones every year – because it’s where my weakness lies.  Remember – when we are weak – God is strong!  He is strong through our weakness.  Hang in there.  God will help you succeed – imperfectly.

4.  If you have a means to make money – a.k.a. – a job, be thankful.  If you have bills due and money coming in, it means you have friends and family you love and you’ve given them a token of that love.  You’ll get caught up financially because God will help you.  Ask Him and He will show you the way.

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Yes, you have to go back to work today – and some jobs are worse than others.  Just be thankful you don’t have this job:

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You have a choice – it’s okay to be blue, but I hope you will choose a light blue instead of a deep dark blue.  If you suffer from horrible dark blue mood today, maybe you should find a job you like – do what you love because life is just too short…  it is.  🙂

A COMMENTARY FROM THE HEART

TL A COMMENTARY FROM THE HEART (13)It’s cold and flu season again!  I hope everyone in your family is well, but it’s a good idea to have a great recipe for chicken noodle soup or chicken and noodles.  It’s a mystery, but something in the broth makes you feel better almost instantly!

Here’s our favorite recipe for chicken and noodles:

Crock Pot Chicken and Noodles (serves 8)

Ingredients:

2 pounds boneless, skinless chicken breasts

1 can cream of chicken soup

1 can cream of celery soup

1 can chicken stock

1 package egg noodles (16 oz. bag)

salt & pepper to taste

Directions:

  • Place the chicken breasts in a 6-qt. slow cooker, then add the soups and stock
  • Put the lid on the slow cooker and turn the heat setting to low.  Cook for 8 hours
  • Boil 1 bag of egg noodles according to the package directions
  • While the noodles are boiling, shred the chicken with two forks, directly in the crock pot
  • Drain the cooked noodles, add to the slow cooker, and gently stir.  Cover the crock pot and continue to heat on low for 15 minutes before serving.  Add some parsley for color if you want to.

When we’re sick we surely don’t mean to share, but there are just viruses going around this year.  Part of taking care of yourself is to feed your body what it needs.  Make sure you also take your meds and get plenty of rest.  It’s not always easy to declare to everyone around you that you’re going to bed for an undetermined amount of time until you feel better, but that’s part of what it takes to feel better.

Sleep has restorative properties.  We don’t give it the credit it deserves in our society.  We’re so determined to tough it out – working through it instead of taking a time-out.  I give you permission…  if you feel sick, please give yourself a time-out.  🙂