The last thing a Christian woman wants to be is unequally yoked. No… not an egg yolk, silly! Yoked… hooked together. Till death do you part can seem like a life sentence in San Quentin if you’re pulling the wagon with the wrong partner!
Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness? – 2 Corinthians 6:14
I didn’t learn this until I was older, but now I know – as long as I keep my hand in God’s hand, He will set me on a joyous journey and my path will be straight. The first time I saw this quote, I literally cried – it’s so true. When I was younger and immature, I didn’t think about this at all. Back then, I can’t say my heart was hidden in God – so there’s the first problem, eh?
How can a non-Christian man understand a Christian woman? He can’t. He may try, but all of his suggestions and solutions would be gleaned from the world, not from God’s Word. Prayer? He would not be a man of prayer. Where does his strength come from? If not from God, then from the Wall Street Journal, I guess. Most Christian couples pray together, so… that leaves you alone to pray – by yourself. Soon you would feel resentment at having to bear the spiritual burden alone.
He could be of a similar mind to you in every other sense and still not make the cut. He could vote a straight political ticket, be a non-smoker, go to the gym three days a week, drive a car made in America (wait – are there any cars made in America anymore?) – anyway – unless he is a believer in Christ Jesus… nope – sorry – he would not be the man for a Christian woman.
If two Christian people can just come together and look to the cross of Christ Jesus – together. Show devotion to Him – together. Praise Him – together. Seek His face and His grace in prayer – together. Then… they are equally yoked and the wagon’s pulled without one partner feeling strained or resentful toward the other.
Christians are not perfect people… we embrace grace – God’s wonderful, amazing grace! It’s as simple as that. We need a life partner who wants that same thing in life. We wilt and die without it – marriages end when God is not invited in.
If a woman will keep her heart hidden in God – the right man will know he needs to find God before he can get to know her. Two people yoked together should be looking in the same direction – that’s the way it’s supposed to be. 🙂