Seek Him

The last thing a Christian woman wants to be is unequally yoked.  No…  not an egg yolk, silly!  Yoked…  hooked together.  Till death do you part can seem like a life sentence in San Quentin if you’re pulling the wagon with the wrong partner!

Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?  – 2 Corinthians 6:14

I didn’t learn this until I was older, but now I know – as long as I keep my hand in God’s hand, He will set me on a joyous journey and my path will be straight.  The first time I saw this quote, I literally cried – it’s so true.  When I was younger and immature, I didn’t think about this at all.  Back then, I can’t say my heart was hidden in God – so there’s the first problem, eh?

How can a non-Christian man understand a Christian woman?  He can’t.  He may try, but all of his suggestions and solutions would be gleaned from the world, not from God’s Word.  Prayer?  He would not be a man of prayer.  Where does his strength come from?  If not from God, then from the Wall Street Journal, I guess.  Most Christian couples pray together, so…  that leaves you alone to pray – by yourself.  Soon you would feel resentment at having to bear the spiritual burden alone.

He could be of a similar mind to you in every other sense and still not make the cut.  He could vote a straight political ticket, be a non-smoker, go to the gym three days a week, drive a car made in America (wait – are there any cars made in America anymore?) – anyway – unless he is a believer in Christ Jesus…  nope – sorry – he would not be the man for a Christian woman.

If two Christian people can just come together and look to the cross of Christ Jesus – together.  Show devotion to Him – together.  Praise Him – together.  Seek His face and His grace in prayer – together.  Then…  they are equally yoked and the wagon’s pulled without one partner feeling strained or resentful toward the other.

Christians are not perfect people…  we embrace grace – God’s wonderful, amazing grace!  It’s as simple as that.  We need a life partner who wants that same thing in life.  We wilt and die without it – marriages end when God is not invited in.

If a woman will keep her heart hidden in God – the right man will know he needs to find God before he can get to know her.  Two people yoked together should be looking in the same direction – that’s the way it’s supposed to be.  🙂

 

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Big Decisions

When women are describing their dream mate, what is it they say – ???  Tall, dark, handsome, and non-communicative – right???  The sad truth is, most women don’t think much about how well a man can communicate, either verbally or non-verbally.  We find out after we marry just how important that quality is!  Frankly, in my humble opinion…  communication IS everything!

There’s a choice I had to make in college that I think may have altered the course of my life.  No, it’s true.  I had to choose between debate and interpersonal communication.  Well, no way was I going to get up in front of a bunch of talented speakers and try my hand at debate as a freshman!  It was a no-brainer…  interpersonal communication, here I come!  I don’t think I did myself a favor by going that way.  I should have thrown my shoulders back and charged ahead.  Now, I wish I would have; however, it does absolutely no good to second guess a decision that I made so long ago.

When one introvert meets and marries another introvert…  communication can be a bit sketchy for a while.  I’ve coined a phrase and use it often:

I am not a mind reader.  I’ve never been a mind reader.  I’ll never BE a mind reader.  Use your words so I will know what is going on.

Every decision as a couple needs to be discussed — not just the big ones.  It’s a matter of respect for one another.  With every year that passes, communication gets easier – you find your own way, and every couple communicates differently.  As long as it works – hey – that’s what matters!

Dear God, we know that marriage can be tricky sometimes because there are two people to consider.  Two sets of values, emotions, and baggage carried around from the past.  Help us to be considerate of one another and respectful in our decision-making.  Help us to make all moves together as a unit instead of as an individual.  You have declared that married couples are ONE.  Remind us, as only You can, that what You have joined together, no one can tear apart.  Thank You for being so good to us.  We love you, Lord.  In Jesus’ name, Amen.

Sometimes it helps to think about a couple that you really admire – and try to mirror some of their actions in your own marriage.  I loved being around my parents.  Those two could just give one another a look and they’d know and understand each other.  I want that in my marriage – and I think that’s the goal of most couples.  It’s those unspoken moments that we cherish the most, I think.  The smiles, grins, silly faces…  I love to remember all that!

Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never ends. As for prophecies, they will pass away; as for tongues, they will cease; as for knowledge, it will pass away.  – 1 Corinthians 13:4-8

I’ll bet I could have been a great in debate class…  I hold my own fairly well on facebook!  Ha!  Does that count??? 

Today is Superbowl Sunday, of course.  I have one thought to share about it. 

One more example of a big decision…  to get excited about Jesus, or get excited about football.  Is there room for both?  Well, yes, of course there’s room for both in our lives.  I’m still angered by the behavior of the players, so will not be watching the Superbowl this year.  I’d rather get excited about Jesus.  He never lets me down!  🙂

 

 

JOHN 3:16 ON 3/16

3-16 HAPPY 3-16This one verse in God’s Word, the Bible, speaks volumes.  If this was the only verse a person committed to memory and held close to their heart, it would be enough.  It tells the whole story – encompasses every key component necessary to obtain Salvation.  Whoever believe in Christ…  bow, let Christ know that you believe that He died on the cross for your sins and that you need Him every day of your life…  and He will not let you perish but He will give you eternal life.  It’s not what we deserve, but it’s how good our God is.

We think we know what love is.  A little over a month ago, we celebrated love on Valentine’s Day.  Have you offered to die for your loved ones?  Me neither.  Have you willingly sacrificed your life for them?  No – me neither.  Christ died so that we could be saved from hell.  He’s the only One worthy of all our praise.GIVE IT TO GOD AND GO PLANT PANSIES

It’s an amazing miracle when two people meet and have this belief in common.  They know what Christ did for them as individuals – but when the two combine their beliefs and allow Christ to be in the center of their love…  that is really something special and it’s such a blessed union.  The most wonderful gift a union like that can give is a faithful prayer life – Christian husbands and wives praying for one another.

Dear Heavenly Father,

Help us to remember that verse in Ecclesiastes 4:12 – Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken.  When we’re tempted to worry or fret, we need Your strength and power in our midst.  We are so human and You are so supernatural and give us such grace and mercy.  Marriage is challenging at times, but we know that You are ready to direct our paths and put us on the right track.  Thank You for Your goodness and for teaching us daily how to love through forgiveness and faith.  Remind us that our cares should be cast on You.  We find our joy in You, and always will.

In Jesus’ Matchless Name, Amen.

Know God = Know Love

No God = No Love

It’s true.  Try loving God’s way…  He wrote THE BOOK on it.  🙂

 

ON THIS DAY IN HISTORY

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I’m not a Democrat, however I do wish Bill & Hillary Clinton a happy wedding anniversary!  They have enjoyed wedded bliss for 40 years today!  Bill & Hill tied the knot in Fayetteville, Arkansas on October 11, 1975.  This blogger was 14 years old and in Jr. High School back then.

Let’s have a little good-natured fun, shall we???  Bwahahaha…

Since they are so poor now (not only broke, but in debt since they left the White House), I’m not sure how they will celebrate…  but I have an old Coleman pup tent they are welcome to borrow.  They have to bring their own sleeping bags, blankets and lanterns A campout would be fun – but I do recommend taking a few blankets because it’s a little nippy at night.

I feel sorry for folks who graduate from Yale and become successful lawyers – then become career politicians…  don’t you?  It takes a special breed to stay in politics as long as these two have.  I can’t imagine having every little thing in my life and especially my marriage put under a giant microscope for God and everyone to see.  I hope it’s been worth it for them.  That sure is not the life I would wish for myself – not for any amount of money.  It’s amazing that they have stayed married – jus’ sayin’…  so many lies and so much deceit.  Do they know truth if it bites them?

Here’s a link of traditional and modern wedding gifts through the years:

http://www.factmonster.com/ipka/A0770817.html

None of these things seem quite right for this special couple.  What is the right gift for Bill & Hill…  for their 40th wedding anniversary???  Wow – what should we get them?  Let’s see…  well – there are a few things on Amazon that look like good choices.  How about pillow cases – one says Mr. Always Right and the other one says Mrs. Always Right – ???

There’s a T-shirt for Bill that says, “I don’t need GOOGLE my wife knows everything.”

Or this T-shirt:

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Oh wait…  that’s the T-shirt I’m giving my husband next year.  LOL!  I’m kidding – I’m kidding.

Ah – I see a ball cap that says, “After 50 years she still puts up with me.”

Yes, this is their 40th wedding anniversary…  but I’m pretty sure it feels like 50.  :-/  I’m kidding…

I do wish Bill & Hillary a lovely 40th wedding anniversary.  I hope they get to spend it with friends and family.

I do very seriously pray for this country and for future leadership.  I pray everyone wakes up to the truth – God’s truth – very soon.  I hope one way or the other, they learn that what they do matters and they are not above the law.  🙂

 

 

 

A COMMENTARY FROM THE HEART

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Marry someone who will suffer well with you, because there will be much suffering during the life journey.  – Unknown

DATE NIGHT

When we are planning a wedding, we often get wrapped up in the aesthetics and tend to ignore the substance.  We want the perfect flowers, dresses and décor.  It’s almost like we get to the point we’re so tired after all that planning, we say, “Vows?  What vows???”  But…  there are vows – and they are meant to be kept for LIFE.  Think about it – it’s a sobering thought, isn’t it?  Yeah – it’s meant to be.

What were those vows?  Ah…  now it’s coming back to me.

Groom: I, Larry, take thee, Linda, to be my wedded Wife, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better for worse, for richer for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, till death us do part, according to God’s holy ordinance; and thereto I plight thee my troth.

Bride: I, Linda, take thee, Larry, to be my wedded Husband, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better for worse, for richer for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love, cherish, and to obey, till death us do part, according to God’s holy ordinance; and thereto I give thee my troth.

Then, as Larry placed the ring on my finger, he said the following:

With this Ring I thee wed, with my body I thee worship, and with all my worldly goods I thee endow: In the name of the Father, and of the Son, and of the Holy Ghost. Amen.

LOVE, HONOR, CHERISH
LOVE, HONOR, CHERISH

Love means, for better or worse, you are committed to caring for the heart of someone else. You are willing to die to yourself, to compromise, to share, to believe, to keep the promise even when it hurts.

Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never ends. As for prophecies, they will pass away; as for tongues, they will cease; as for knowledge, it will pass away. 1 Corinthians 13:4-8

Prepare for painful moments – painful hours – painful days.  When the times are good or worth celebrating – do it with all your might, but when you are in pain, keep those good days – those good memories – at the forefront.  Think about the good as you go through the bad.  God has every situation in His very capable hands.  Trust Him for all the answers.