WORLD MENOPAUSE MONTH

tl-october-is-world-menopause-monthI used to sleep at night…  now, I write – and write – and write some more!  I used to eat larger meals…  now, I order off the senior menu at Denny’s.  I usually don’t have a happy plate when I’m finished either.  I drink coffee in excess and less water – but I’m working on getting that changed around.  If it sounds as though I’m complaining, forgive me…  I’m not.  I keep telling myself that I am blessed – a hysterectomy was necessary to get rid of ovarian cancer.  It didn’t spread and I’m alive.  I’m alive to complain about these changes!

gods-got-youAll I ask is that you ignore me when I’m standing at Braum’s with the freezer door open, frantically fanning cold air on myself.  Just act like it’s a perfectly normal thing to do.  Feel free to join me if you’d like.  Let’s have a party – the more the merrier!

Isn’t it fun when you walk into a room and just stand there at the door thinking, “OK, why did I come in here?”  Mentalpause!  That mental pause you need in order to grasp your bearings is enough to make you want to carry one of those voice-activated mini-recorders around with you.  You can say to it, “I’m going to the kitchen to take my morning pills.”  Then when you get to the kitchen, play it back.  Yeah – that’s one option.

How much warning do you get before a hot flash happens?  I don’t get any warning – is that normal?  I can be going about my business one minute and look as though I’ve just swam the English Channel the next because my hair is wet.  It’s embarrassing!  I’ve tried to find a more flattering hair style to deal with these new challenges.  I’ve decided there isn’t one…  so I’ve learned to like hats.  I never really thought of wearing hats back in my 20’s, 30’s or 40’s – but this gal sports a hat most of the time these days.  I have a nice variety of hats – I even have a red hat with a purple ribbon.  That never made sense to me when I was younger.  Now…  ah – it’s all making so much more sense to me!  Red Hat Society…  sign me up!

My moods swing like a pendulum sometimes.  I’m not sure how much of that is lack of sleep, but I’m sure the majority of times it is a direct result of insomnia.  I hesitate to take a PM medicine that promotes sleep since I already take an NSAID most mornings for arthritis pain.

Nope – still not complaining!  Just so ya know…  just assessing the changes since the change.

My mother’s generation referred to it as THE CHANGE OF LIFE.  I remember wondering how much different life could get.  Now I know.  Wish I had my mom around to talk with.  It’s funny, she always told me that when my hair turned gray, it would turn a very pretty gray.  I remember thinking, “Oh that will be a long time from now…”  Well – BOOM – here I am, gray hairs and all.  When a natural blonde turns gray, sometimes it can look a bit mousey and dull.  Mine isn’t mousey and for that I’m thankful.  I’m pretty sure my mom would laugh if she could see me now.  Yeah – we’d giggle together.  ❤

Lately I’ve seen the ads for Crepe Erase – it’s supposed to get rid of the elephant skin – well, I don’t care because this body is never going to pose on a beach in a bikini like Jane Seymour – so…  no sale.  Sorry.  Age and weight loss is an interesting combination.  I’m not sorry I lost the weight though because my overall health is so much better.

My neighbor caught me in the back yard last winter after a heavy snow.  He apparently thought it was odd that I was rolling around in it.  I made a feeble attempt to explain, but it just turned into muttering as I walked away from him toward my back door.

Even though it’s called MENopause, I’ve not been impressed with any man’s understanding of it.

We bought a new vehicle a few years back – one of the best-selling points for me was the dual temperature control – I can set my temperature at 60 degrees in the middle of winter – YES!

There’s an interesting dynamic in our house every winter.  My husband takes blood thinners and gets cold very easily.  So, he cranks the heat up to who knows where and I’m wearing very little because I’m dying of heat stroke.  Is it any wonder I go to the back yard and roll in the snow?

I should charge admission…  it’s apparently quite entertaining.  Huh…  I’ll have to think about that.  🙂

 

 

 

 

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ACTIVE AGING WEEK

tl-9-25-active-aging-weekOther people see the persona we present.  We are able to hide many things, including bad attitudes from others – but God knows everything, doesn’t He?dont-be-finished

That means He knows when I just want to stay in my jammies and write the day away.  When the pain in my head, joints or nerves is just too bad to try to exercise on gym day, I think it’s time to find a new way…

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If you have sciatica, you will understand that when it kicks up, you don’t always want to go workout at the gym.  It feels like a red -hot poker is right beside your sciatic nerve.  I’m not always diggin’ on exercise.  When it’s particularly painful, as it is now – there is also substantial weakness in my leg.  I could be walking and my leg can just “give away” – it buckles!  Sometimes I wonder how much more fun this condition will be as I get older.  At 55 I can usually work through the pain and do a victory dance when I’m done.  Will I be able to do that at 65 or 75???  Well…  time will tell.

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We’re all doing the best we can with these bodies God gave us.  Have you ever wondered if God gives you difficult days so you will slow down and be active in a different way?  Maybe active doesn’t always refer to physical activity.  Of course, it encompasses that…  but people who are not in physical condition to run marathons should not feel that they cannot be used of God.  That is certainly not true.

  • Active aging may include mental focus.  I read an article recently about a senior who lived alone.  A veteran, he lived with just one leg.  He wanted to make a difference in someone’s life and prayed that God would open the door of opportunity.  It didn’t take the Lord long to answer his prayer.  A young mother with a son in elementary school lived in the apartment upstairs.  They had just moved in.  The mother worked 3 jobs to make ends meet.  The man offered to have the son stay with him, and help him with homework until his mom got home.  He not only helped take care of the young boy, but learned all about the dreaded common core math.  Just what we all want to do, right?  I’m sure along with homework, the man told the boy some war stories and shared U.S. history with him.
  • Active aging may include sharing.  Whether you are able to share your time, talent or treasure, there are ways you can share.  The church I grew up in had VBS every summer.  Through the years, I knew that some of the teacher’s faces would be familiar and some would drop out after a year or two.  One senior woman was there every year – our church librarian.  Mrs. Little believed that books about the church, it’s beliefs, and God Himself were like bridges that young people could cross to gain wisdom that would reinforce other teaching.  She encouraged us to be curious.  I used to go into the library just to chat with her.  She always had such wonderful insight when it came to recommending books to read.  It was like she already knew what I needed to read before I walked in the door.  She would not have had to share her time, talent or treasure (as I think most of the books came from her own collection).  I believe being church librarian was her passion and she experienced fulfillment in the ministry.  As she got older, Mrs. Little was nearly blind.  She was not discouraged and had some help, but she did not quit.
  • Active aging may include helping.  While it’s important to emphasize that nobody should be giving money away on facebook or giving out their personal information to anyone else – EVER…  I do think there are legitimate ways to help that are relatively safe.  My friend never had children, but read an advertisement for a pregnancy crisis center.  She had some health issues such as asthma that made it difficult to exercise much, but she felt led to answer the charity’s plea for help.  It happens that she was one of their best counselors and the most patient.  She gave rock solid, sound advice to young women in crisis.
  • Active aging may include teaching.  Seniors know more than young people, and the youth are missing a wealth of information by ignoring what they have to teach them.  My friend was a pianist for a church and in a few gospel groups through the years.  As she got older, arthritis began to invade her joints, including the joints in her hands.  She knew it was a matter of time until she would be unable to serve effectively, but she still had the knowledge to teach children.  She said there is nothing more rewarding than to teach and see the “light bulb light up” in a child’s eyes when they understand what you’re trying to teach.  My friend, crippled with arthritis, could still teach.
  • Active aging may include praying.  Last on my list, but by no means the least!  Prayer warriors are the backbone of families, churches, communities and nations!  Never underestimate the value of a sincere prayer from a prayer warrior.  Never think that as a senior, it’s time to be put to pasture.  God hears each and every prayer you pray.  Even if you have bad knees and can’t kneel anymore…  God understands!  He made you, so surely He forgives when you don’t kneel anymore.  Prayer is humility toward our maker and He looks forward to hearing them.

If you think that Active Aging Week is just about lifting weights or riding a bike from one end of the city to the other…  think again.  These bodies are so fragile and frail…  and they don’t get stronger as time passes.  Please know that our Lord is aware of how the aging process works.  He is not surprised by it, and I don’t think most of us are either.  Just put your life and your body in His hands.  He will help you to make the best of aging.  I plan to be active as I age, don’t you?  🙂

RESPECT FOR THE AGED DAY

TL 9-19 RESPECT FOR THE AGED DAYRespect For The Aged Day is a Japanese designated public holiday celebrated annually to honor elderly citizens.  The holiday recognizes the contributions that elderly citizens have made to Japanese society.

I wonder how much America could learn from this tradition?  In this country it seems that our elderly are not honored, but tossed aside or institutionalized where they become someone else’s problem.  It’s so sad because our senior citizens have so much wisdom to offer.  They’d be more than happy to share with us if we’d just ask.

WEAK MEMORY, STRONG HEART

Choosing to love an elderly person, whether they are family or not, is a choice.  We can choose to be impatient and irritable with them, or kind and helpful.  You could think of it this way…  if you live long enough, you’ll eventually be elderly.  How do you want to be treated?  It goes back to the Golden Rule:  Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.

 And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ’s sake hath forgiven you.  – Ephesians 4:32

If there’s an elderly person in your life, take some time today to show respect for them.  Here are just a few ideas:

  • A phone call shows that you care.  Let them know you’re thinking of them.
  • Send a card that says you’re concerned about their welfare.
  • Ask questions about how things were back when they were younger.  They’ll be happy to share stories.
  • Show appreciation for any special gifts and talents they have.  Compliment the most recent project.
  • Give a little present to show love and appreciation.  It doesn’t have to cost a bundle, but it’ll do so much good.
  • Plan a special outing if possible.  There’s nothing quite like an occasion to look forward to – and dress up for.  It doesn’t have to be expensive – just a nice lunch at a favorite restaurant would be nice.
  • Offer a ride to an appointment or to the grocery store.
  • Share your precious time with someone who is more than likely lonely and may need some human contact and conversation.i-must-take-time

We all just want to be respected, don’t we?  We would like to have our efforts and our contributions appreciated once in a while.  How much more would we like all that if we were older and possibly all alone?  As we age, we need even more help, but we also need common courtesy from others and wouldn’t it be great to get some respect?

Remember the old Rodney Dangerfield routine… I DON’T GET NO RESPECT – ???  Well, it’s funny as a bit, but it’s really not very funny when you don’t get respect in real life.  :-/

 

NATIONAL SENIOR CITIZENS DAY

8-21 NATIONAL SENIOR CITIZENS DAY

The older I get, the younger everyone else looks!  – Linda Palmer

 

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When my mother turned 65, she started getting all that “fun” mail…  you know, all the “old people” mail.  She was visibly angered and depressed about it.  As her only child, I knew I had my work cut out for me to make her 65th birthday a happy one.  She was a valentine baby – her birthday was February 15th, but we always celebrated with lots of hearts and roses.  The normal routine was for me to bake her a heart-shaped cake with number candles on top.  I had to do something extra special for her 65th…  I had no idea what that would be, but I had to nail it.  And this year I didn’t think she’d like having the numbers 6 and 5 staring at her from a heart-shaped cake.

Mama loved girly things like hairstyles and makeovers and spa stuff.  Our Towne West mall was only 7 years old in 1987.  It was fun and hopping and there were all sorts of girly stores at the time.  I wanted her to be pampered, but on my budget I couldn’t afford very much.  I went in to Dillard’s to talk to a sweet lady in the cosmetic department.

Lisa was not a young person but not old either.  She listened to my story about how mom was celebrating a milestone and she had received all this mail that made her feel like it was time to go out to pasture.  She understood exactly what I was talking about and we plotted and planned such a great makeover for her!  Lisa and I talked for TWO hours!  She didn’t seem to be concerned that she’d lost some sales in that time.  I was so impressed with her.  This was one birthday that I knew my mama was going to enjoy.

There’s something you should know about me…  I never get away with surprising anybody – EVER!  I am the worst surprise party giver that ever lived.  I was so afraid that somehow my mom was going to find out about her surprise makeover.  I swore my family to secret – all two of them – but they were both men, so…  my husband and my dad.  My bases were covered…  and I was so anxious for the Saturday before her birthday to roll around.

Saturday rolled around.  There was not any significant snowfall, for which I was thankful.  My boss said we didn’t have to work, for which I was even more thankful.  Everything was working out great!  I called mom just to make sure she was getting ready to go.  She said, “Oh, I’m not sure I feel up to it today.  Can we go out next week?”

NO NO NO – we can’t!!!  I didn’t say it, but I sure thought it.  OK, compose yourself and don’t appear too eager.  “Well, you know I’ve worked most Saturdays lately and I didn’t have to work today, so I may not get another opportunity to get out on a Saturday again for a while.”

There was a pause in the conversation that seemed to last forever.  I waited for a response…  wait for it…  wait for it…

“Oh, okay.  I’ll be ready when you get here.”

YES – SCORE!

I got off the phone, grabbed my purse, dug out my keys and headed out the door.  As I got in the car, I saw the first snowflake.  I thought, “OK, we can get this done quick and get back before it gets too bad.”

When I got to mom’s, she was not quite dressed.  From the looks of things, she had tried on about 4 different outfits.  I looked at my watch and looked out the window…  it was getting late and the snow was falling.  It’s my mom…  it’s her day…  and she needs to feel pretty.  She was always pretty.  The only one who never knew it was her – even though I told her every day.

I gave her my honest opinions about what looked best and she got dressed.  She put on her coat and we cautiously walked to the car.  The snow was still just drifting around and didn’t look like it was going to be too bad.  Yay – we were on our way to the mall.  I was so excited.

Once in the car, mom said, “Are you sure you want to go to the mall today?  It looks like it’s going to snow like this for a while.”  I assured her that it will be fine – just fine.  I was determined that this was going to happen for her.  She was the best mom in the world and deserved the best birthday.

We made it to the mall and I parked as close as I could to Dillard’s.  Surprisingly, mom didn’t ask what we were doing at that particular store, but I had a story all ready.  I used it anyway because it took me so long to come up with it – :-/  “I just need to quick grab a new mascara here at Dillard’s and they’re the only ones who have what I like.”  See – isn’t that a great excuse???  I thought so.  Actually, the only make-up I buy is from Walmart and there is no counter.  I can’t afford make-up from behind a counter.

We slowly walked to the door.  The snow was starting to stick a little more now, but I wasn’t overly concerned.  My mind was on mom’s surprise birthday present.

When I saw Lisa, she got the biggest smile on her face!  “Hello, Mrs. Turner!”  You should have seen the look on mama’s face.  She couldn’t figure out why this lady knew her name!  It was funny and one of the best memories tucked in my mind.  Lisa and I started laughing and explained what was going on to my poor mother.

I knew at that moment that it was worthwhile…  the time, the effort, the planning.  I think it was the best time and mom felt so special and pampered.  I bought a few of her favorite products and she bought a few.  We laughed and chatted and we were just girls being girls – of all ages.  I think for a little while, mama forgot she was 65, she forgot about the mail, the stigma, the meaning behind being that particular age.

I’m not good at surprise parties as a general rule.  I try to make birthdays special and sometimes I think surprises are fun – but on my mom’s 65th birthday…  I NAILED IT!

When she was all prettied up, we waded back out to the car.  The snow had stopped falling and it wasn’t freezing, so we pulled into Spear’s restaurant across the street to get a cup of coffee.  I mentioned that it was my mother’s birthday, and the waitress gave us a free piece of pumpkin bread, which tastes more like cake.  It was our family’s favorite treat year around, not just in the autumn months.

I wish I could have taken a photo.  We didn’t have digital cameras back then.  I didn’t make a habit of carrying my Polaroid camera around with me.  My mother was beautiful – and more importantly, she felt beautiful and that made me very happy!

If you know a senior citizen, give them a call or visit them and let them know how much they mean to you.  They just want to know they are still important to someone.  Happy National Senior Citizens Day!  🙂

 

 

COMMENTARY FROM THE HEART

TL A COMMENTARY FROM THE HEART (30)On Memorial Day I looked in the mirror and noticed a lot more gray hairs than ever before.  So many thoughts ran through my mind, including the cost of a professional highlight or color job.  My hair has always had natural highlights and lowlights – the problem is that now those highlights are gray – and they’re starting to wash me out!

I’ve noticed some posts on facebook lately advertising the newest summer hair colors and styles – one of the popular colors is called COFFEE BLONDE.  Hmm…  I thought…  coffee!  It peaked my interest and I started searching the internet.  I found several articles and recipes for natural and chemical-free hair staining.  It’s like a natural henna – and I like the idea of no chemicals damaging my baby fine hair.HAIR STAINIt will probably last until my next shampoo – but the good news is, I’m not going to lose hair like I do when I use the permanent hair color from the box.  There’s no peroxide and no real danger involved.  The amount of instant coffee granules, brewed coffee and conditioner is so inexpensive.  I don’t know about you, but I never use my shampoo and conditioner at the same rate – I have tons of leftover conditioner!  It’s really a win/win.  I can afford to do this just before I wash my hair – not a big deal.

There’s only one side effect (if you can call it that)…  my hair smells like COFFEE.  LOL!!!

It’s just one more frugal thing to try just for fun.  If you want  a dramatic red/burgundy, you can use beet juice.  A cinnamon tea also leaves a bit of brownish/red tint (and the scent would be good too).  Of course for years blondes used mayonnaise or lemon juice in addition to their regular shampoo and conditioner to make their hair shine.

If you are daring and want a more dramatic change, how about sugar-free KOOL-AID???  Yeah – and it’s pretty simple.  The results will show up more on dry hair than on wet hair – and the lighter your hair is, the more dramatic the color will be.  Here’s what you need:

3-6 packages of SUGAR-FREE KOOL-AID (depending on the length of your hair) in a large glass bowl.  Please make sure it’s sugar-free because you do NOT want sticky hair.

Mix with a little conditioner (about 1/4 cup or so) and some hot water.  Stir until you have a paste-like consistency – don’t add too much water or it will be too runny.

I’d wear gloves because it will definitely stain your skin.  If you do get some on your skin, it can be easily removed – no worries.

If you want all of your hair colored, dunk your head in the bowl and massage paste into scalp and on hair.  Or for streaks, put it only where you want it.

Put long pieces of plastic wrap around your head.  Then put a plastic bag over that and secure with a chip clip or tie in a knot on top.

Sleep in it – yeah, I know – just do it.

The next morning, remove the bag and plastic wrap.  Hop in the shower and rinse your hair.  DO NOT SHAMPOO!  If you shampoo, it will wash all the Kool-Aid out.

There are tons of alternatives to harsh chemicals that can potentially BLIND you if it gets in your eyes!  Nothing that harsh should go on anyone’s scalp – or their hair.  Even henna has ingredients that are too harsh in my opinion.

It’s fun to try new colors and it doesn’t take long to go from drab to dazzling!  What will you do today?  Start June with something different.  🙂

KEN CARSON’S BIRTHDAY

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Ken Carson, also known as the KEN DOLL, was introduced by Mattel on this day in 1961.  He was the fictional boyfriend of the BARBIE DOLL, introduced 2 years earlier.  Barbie’s boyfriend had a snazzy line of clothing and accessories.  Barbie & Ken met on the set of a TV commercial in 1961.

Ken’s father was a doctor, and poor Ken has held at least forty occupations.  He just never found himself, I guess.  Somehow he’s able to afford the best stuff – the best clothes and cars.  Hmm…  obviously it’s a fantasy!

So, Ken Carson is 55 years old today.  He still has his boyish looks and irresistible charm, so life has been good to him.  Maybe he has learned the lesson we all have to learn eventually – stuff is just stuff and you can’t take it with you.  He’s decided to take care of his health and say his prayers because he knows that it’s best to trust God with his life.

If Ken is 55, that means that Barbie is now 57.  Hmm…  I imagine some things have dropped – I’m guessing down around her knees.  LOL…  well, that’s life.

It was never clear what their relationship was.  I think many details were left to the child playing with the dolls – to their imagination.  Many of us had Barbie and Ken weddings.  My Barb and Ken got married a few times, with cousin Skipper standing up as their witness.

At one point, my Ken doll had more clothes in his closet than Barbie.  Fortunately I quickly took care of that problem and bought a ton of clothes and accessories for Barbie from my girlfriend’s mom, who made doll clothes.

Ken & Barbie are an important part of many real life plans we make as little girls.  Through them, we think about our futures and what we want to do with our lives.  Happy Birthday, Ken – you good-lookin’ 55 year old!  😉

 

 

BIRTHDAY #54

TL BIRTHDAY #54

I enjoy and am enjoying the good things that come along with [aging]… Nobody can buy experience.  Nobody can buy wisdom.  Nobody can buy a shared history with others that you get by being relevant and engaged year upon year upon year.  – Rob Lowe

Have you ever seen a cake with 54 candles on it?  I know, me neither.  So, there is a positive to not eating cake, huh?

I’m so thankful to God for another year of life.  I received this from a friend:

Renew My Strength

Heavenly Father,

Please bless Linda, for today is her birthday. Dear Lord, please protect and guide Linda as she continues along the path you’ve chosen for her. Give her the courage to follow in your light, and feel your love wherever she goes. Make her strong and give her the strength to make good decisions in the coming year. Keep her free from illness and sadness, for she is a truly good person who deserves happiness and success in all aspects of life. We know that life is like a book. With each new chapter, we learn and grow towards what you would have us be. Bless Linda now on this day, and in the future.

In your name we pray,

Amen.

Isn’t that sweet?  My friends mean so much to me, and kindness like that is a real treasure and uplifts my spirit!

On this day I also want to wish some other (more famous) people a very happy birthday!

  • Emmylou Harris
  • Adam Rodriguez
  • Michael Fassbender
  • Quavo Marshall
  • Bethany Joy Lenz
  • Traci Braxton
  • Drew Van Acker
  • Christopher Meloni
  • Clark Gregg
  • Kapil Sharma
  • David Ferrer
  • Roselyn Sanchez
  • Linda Hunt
  • Jesse Carmichael
  • Adam Shulman
  • Sia Barbi
  • Deon Richmond
  • Leon Russell
  • Leyla Milani
  • Lindy Booth
  • Amy Castle
  • Samu Haber
  • Paquita la del Barrio
  • Pedro Pascal
  • Lee De Wyre
  • Clare Thomas
  • Simon Farmaby

I’m in good company!  And here are a few who were born on April 2nd but have passed on:

  • Marvin Gaye
  • Hans Christian Andersen
  • Buddy Ebsen
  • Alec Guinness
  • Charlemagne
  • Jack Webb

I’m sure you have done this on your birthday – looked up all the famous people who share your special day.  It’s fun to think about all the talented folks you share a birthday with.  I wonder if I could have been famous?  Oh well…  I’m sure that ship has sailed – but it might have been nice.

This year I’d like to see the movie “American Sniper”.  It’s time for America to see a real hero.

This picture [American Sniper] was interesting because I’m seeing it from the point of a person who was sort of an American hero…  His family and his beliefs were very strong…  You have to embrace his philosophy if you’re going to tell a story about him.  – Clint Eastwood

Look what I had waiting for me on facebook today…  Lucinda spoils me – she really does.  This poem made me cry – it did.

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From Lucinda… Awe!

And Lucinda, I will now give you another photo to add to your collection – LOL!  This is my official RED HAT photo.  No, I’m not a member of the Red Hat Society, but I sure do embrace the notion that as one ages, one must not be overly concerned about what colors do and do not go together, nor how many feathers one wears in one’s hat.  Bring on the hats, the feathers, the purple and red together.  I will age with grace, but I will age with an attitude that says RULES???  WHAT RULES???

I love this post on one of my favorite blogs – http://advancedstyle.blogspot.com/2015/04/easter-parade-2015.html

Wouldn’t you love to join these wonderful women???  I sure would!

Ready for the Red Hat Society!
Ready for the Red Hat Society!

I must share a story about this photo.  I found this red hat (I know it looks orange in the photo but it really is red) at the antique store.  I saw it as a photo-op.  I didn’t want to actually buy the hat, so I casually went into the booth and tried to hide amongst some other items so I would not be seen taking the photo.

I was almost home free…  I got my camera out and was seconds away from pushing the button when I happened to glance just outside the booth and across the store – at the cutest little lady.  She must have been kicking 80.  I wondered if she was going to approve or disapprove of my actions – but I knew she was cool when those two little thumbs of hers turned upward and she gave me the biggest grin I’ve ever seen!  I wish I had a photo of that – because it was priceless!

Opinions are like birthdays; everybody has one, and I know yours only because of facebook.  @RANDILAWSON

Thank you all for the kind wishes and encouragement.  I’m thankful to God for another year of life!  And yes, I may have a small slice of birthday cake today – but it won’t be the cake that had 54 candles on it – lol!!!  🙂