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“It’s a delight to trust somebody so completely.” – Jeff Goldblum
Today is WATER A FLOWER DAY!!! I humbly give you a thought to ponder. A strong relationship is like a soft, fragile flower. Without water and care, it withers and ultimately dies. Even a cactus needs a little water once in a while.
In our world, the media would have you believe that everything is all about sex. From shampoo to chewing gum, sex sells, and always has ! The superficial coating that people want to pass off for love leaves me shaking my head and screaming at the top of my lungs… THERE MUST BE MORE TO IT THAN THIS!!!
Let me begin by saying I am not an expert or a therapist or anyone who has the perfect formula for a relationship. I’m just a person who finds human behavior fascinating and I wonder why some relationships seem to flourish while others seem to fade.
I believe that relationships should be rooted in the soil of trust. Whether you are in the flourishing class or the fading group, one of the most important ingredients for success is trust. Once it is plain that the one you have entrusted with your love and your very life cannot be trusted, there is little hope for love to grow. At that point a relationship cannot thrive and will die rather quickly.
But trust extends beyond just knowing that your significant other is not stepping out on you. Trust also includes a degree of respect for what the other person wants and needs along the way. Seeing to it that they have what they need is good, but when what they want is also deemed as important, that is when love can be seen and trust can be built. If that is lacking, then trust can be easily lost.
Just as the best soil for flowers is beneficial, there is real delight when you know your partner in life can be trusted. Trusted to care for you – see that you get not only what you need (food, clothing, shelter), but what you may want once in a while. I’m not suggesting that anyone take advantage or be taken advantage of. I am, however, suggesting that trust is reinforced when both parties play fair in the relationship.
This post may fall on deaf ears, but I’m writing it anyway. I submit that good healthy relationships, like flowers, are all about using good quality soil (trust) and proper watering (care). If you want to keep your partner happy and healthy and feeling delightful, be trustworthy and caring! Doesn’t everyone deserve to feel delight in a relationship?
Remember the Golden Rule???
Do unto others as you would have them do unto you?
Well, the rule is still golden and the principle still applies. Nobody likes to feel slighted, cheated – or like a second-class citizen! Do more than is necessary to make your partner happy. Don’t just do the least required. How much does that person mean to you? Think about it. <3